5 weeks pregnant, he left me

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Registered: 11-14-2003
5 weeks pregnant, he left me
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 10:25pm
Hi everyone.
Well here's my sad story.
My bf of 8yrs and I had been trying for a baby for 10 months. We had been fighting alot the last few months but we both wanted and continued to try for a baby. I broke up with him and told him not to come home about 1 week before I found out I was pregnant. When I found out we had not spoken for a week. When I told him about the pregnancy he didn't seem happy about it at all.
I begged for forgiveness and told him to come back home. (we live in a house for the past 5 yrs with a dog and 2 cats). I told him I wanted to make things work between us and that we both should see a therapist and try to work out our problems for the baby. He told me he would be a father but we didn't have to be together. Later that day he came home unexpected, had sex with me and hasn't been back since. That was almost a week ago. The day after I called him to see what was going on. I was very confused. He told me he didn't want to come back home because he "didn't feel it". I cried and once again told him to please come home that I needed him to be here with me. The next night he unexpectedly showed up again but I was not home.
He left a voicemail on my cell saying he had come by but I was not home so he's leaving. I never called him back.
Here I am trying to enjoy my pregnancy that I waited for for 10 months but I feel dumped and abandoned at my time of need. I cannot believe after 8yrs he'd do this to me. I did not want to go through this alone. I feel like he's a different person than the man i knew 3 weeks ago.
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Registered: 04-18-2010
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 11:38pm

I'm sorry for what you're going through. It's hard enough being pregnant. Honestly, I would just enjoy your pregnancy alone. Your baby is kicking, and can hear you. I would do everything possible with your unborn like read, and talk, sing. Just keep your mind off of things.


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Registered: 11-14-2003
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 11:43pm
Thanks.... I'm only 5 weeks pregnant though so it's not kicking yet. I know I can make it on my own. It's just my heart was set on being with him while we were pregnant. Did I mention that I was also working with him at his business, so now I'm also unemployed. I left.
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Registered: 04-18-2010
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 1:27am

I know all to well what it feels like to have your heart being set on something. I can't imagine working where he works,and I don't blame you for quiting as any person would!

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Sun, 05-02-2010 - 7:50am
New to service. Sorry. I've deleted this reply and started a new thread...


Edited 5/2/2010 8:34 am ET by marcellerella
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-03-2010 - 11:53pm

I'm sorry.. i understand how u feel.. I'm 6 1/2 weeks and we broke up before i found out..

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 10:12pm

Hi,


I am sorry that you are going through this process without a partner.

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 11:45am

Hi,


I sincerely aprreciate your post.

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Registered: 05-05-2010
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 7:19pm
I am in the exact same boat me and my fiancee tried to have a baby for 8 months we were fighting alot so i moved out a week later i found out i was pregnant with our child i told him he did not seem happy and now he is already talking to someone else i really want to make it work i love him so much i already have a four year old and now i am six weeks preg and dont know what to do or where to go from here
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 6:55pm
It's very hard. He came back around and wants to try to make it work. I of course would love nothing more than to make it work but it's hard to not feel resentful towards him. All the things that made us break up to begin with are still there, those problems don't just go away. I am at a crossroads and not sure where I'm headed but where ever it is it will be with my baby.
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Registered: 05-10-2010
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 1:55am
wow, your story sounds so much like mine. i am also 5 weeks pregnant, but your post is old so im sure you are a couple months along. its really sad what has happened to the both of us. we also tired to get pregnant. after that we started fighting and we also broke up and then a couple of weeks later i found out i was pregnant. if you wanna email me, its alanavalerio8@yahoo.com

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