the crazy train

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Registered: 07-08-2007
the crazy train
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Sun, 06-06-2010 - 11:41am
Does anyone have advice for me on how to stop my ex from continually contacting me?
He is bi-polar and when we broke up it was by all outward appearances mutual, but two days later he started texting and leaving voicemails. These messages are all over the board from how wonderful I am to how horrible I am, to threats against my ex-husband, to threats of suicide, to booty calls, to pitying me, to outright begging. I do not want him to know about the pregnancy - because of this type of behavior. (While I could accept his strange behavior and just ignore him when he got to be too much and enjoy him when he was on his meds and taking care of himself, a child should NOT have to put up with a father that acts like he does. A child deserves parents that will be able to care for him/her!) This has been going on for a week now and I want it to stop in some way that lets him get on with his life (and doesn't send him over the edge to endanger himself or others). I've tried the "it's me, not you" option because in the past the "it's you, just leave me alone" really didn't seem to work. I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you!
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Registered: 01-06-2007
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:04am

I would just tell him that you felt like you had both come to a mutual decision and that you know that he is understanding and that what's best is for the two of you to remember what you had fondly and move on. After that, stop responding to ANYTHING. Don't allow him to bait you - It's a power thing. If it gets to where you can't take it anymore, do what I did and just change your number. Works like a charm! :)


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