How to Tell the Family?

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Registered: 04-02-2011
How to Tell the Family?
Mon, 04-04-2011 - 6:05pm

I have a question for all of you? There is varying ages here, but how did you tell the family? I was planning on waiting until the first trimester is over so the question of whether or not I will have it is out of the way, but on the other hand I think they will use that against me. Or at least say they feel doubly betrayed that I didn't tell them sooner. What do you think? When/how are you going to tell your family?

Right now the plan is to just get them all together and tell them at once. Rip that bandaid off, let them yell and scream and then move on... I hope.

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Mon, 04-04-2011 - 11:21pm
I think you need to do what is best for you. A lot of married couples wait til after the 1st trimester when the risk of miscarriage is a lot lower and that way you don't have to un-tell if the unthinkable happens. I told my sister around 8 or 9 weeks I think and she was upset I didn't tell her prior to that and I did it via email too lol. I told my dad a day or two later when we went to get my military ID issue sorted out. LOL Imagine his face when I asked the people behind the desk some interesting questions. ;-) He was ok with it, but hates my baby's dad.

I told my stepsons shortly thereafter too and then on fb. I am not a patient person though. LOL It can be easier to tell all at once but will be overwhelming too! Make sure you can decompress afterward because it can really wear you out and depending on the reactions you may need it! Also come prepared to answer the questions you could expect they might ask: Where is the dad/will he be involved? How do you expect to afford this? Have you thought about the other choices (seems to be a favorite of all UGH!). How do you expect to continue work/school/etc with a baby?

If you come prepared you might not be as freaked out with their questions. Expect the worst reactions, hope for the best, and whatever happens should be a smidge easier to deal with. Its hard to tell those you care about, but know that what really matters is how you feel about this and that it can be done successfully! HTH

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