I don't get it!!!
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|Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:18pm|
So I'm sitting here thinking and I just don't get how a guy can just walk away from the mother of his child and his baby. I am six months pregnant and been going through this pregnancy completely alone. The baby's father will text me or call and ask to see me when it's convenient to him. After I agree to see him then I don't hear from him for weeks again. He came over last week and made me feel completely worthless. He told me how he's seeing another girl who he says he really likes a lot. Is he kidding me? He acts like he has no ties or responsibility to this baby and it's really hurtful. Then he asks me if I will email him pictures and if he can see "the kid" once in a while. He said he doesn't want to be financially or emotionally tied to the this but wants to be "in the loop" on his life.
Usually I end up giving into him because I am the kind of person that puts others before myself. In the past I have forgiven him for many things. However, this is crazy to me that someone can be so selfish, so rude, so disrespectful to me. He hasn't checked in with me on a regular basis. I told him when I had a couple of doctor's appointments and he never asked how they went. Then he actually said he felt guilty for coming over to see me cause he felt like his new girlfriend would be upset if she knew about it. He feels guilty for hurting her!!!! What!!!!!
I'm done with him for good. I can't take it anymore! I have promised myself that I will not answer any texts or phone calls from him. I want to cut out all communication from him. I don't want him involved in my baby's life. He is obviously not capable of being a good parent. He doesn't deserve to be called a man. He's a 30 year old acting like a adolescent (actually many teenagers would be more responsible than him).
This whole experience and reading all of the posts on here have opened my eyes to how strong women are. I would never be able to walk away from my child or basically just not care. If I ever knew this side of him before I would have left him long ago.
The only part that makes me sad is when my son asks about his father. I don't know what I will tell him. I guess I have time to think about it. Anyone have any advice on explaining to a little boy why his father acted like an a**hole and that's why he's not around?