I just can't get over it.

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Registered: 10-09-2009
I just can't get over it.
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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 8:58am

I just can't get over the fact that my baby's dad treated us like crap during my whole entire pregnancy.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 10:22am

Hey - I just wanted to message you and let you know you're not alone. I am in the same boat: getting my MBA, baby on the way, and totally left. I am amazed...TRULY AMAZED...at a man's ability to walk away from a pregnant woman he always said he "loved." I can't get over it either, it doesn't make any sense. I mean, the girls on 16 and Pregnant have their baby daddies, and then I hear about men who do this kind of thing, but to actually have been engaged to one, to wake up one day and realize that this guy has no heart just ripped mine out. I feel for you, that's what I can say. And here's what else I can say: Don't feel guilty for going your own way.

He left you!! In the dust! I mean, he's obviously a pretty good liar just like my ex, and sometimes I feel like they get a heavy dose of guilt and then try to make things right, but see, that doesn't last long because it's not their ultimate motive. They just want to make themselves FEEL BETTER for that moment. Once they feel better, they walk away again. It's all about their own self-centeredness. I think we, as women, are just made a little differently. I dunno - if the world was made where men were the pregnant ones, would we have this problem of men leaving all the time? Probably not.

Anyway, I am here if you want to talk - sometimes it just helps to know someone else understands. I have decided to do my own thing and not let him try and scare me into custody things. I mean, my guy just begged me for an abortion the day I found out I was pregnant and then moved out in that same hour!! Turns out, he found himself a girlfriend on the side. He's living with her today and I'm expecting my baby in 8 weeks. It's mind blowing, isn't? I was good to him, I swear. I don't understand it at all.

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Registered: 10-09-2009
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 2:00pm

It was the shock of a lifetime. We went out to dinner had a good time and just hours later he literally walks out in the middle of the night.