I need some advice.

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Registered: 01-17-2011
I need some advice.
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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 3:20pm

So here it goes, my life at the moment. I am 20 years old and I should be graduvating college next Christmas.

So for 2 weeks I have had cramps, been really tired, peeing a lot

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 01-19-2011 - 10:28am

First off, sending you lots of (((HUGS))).

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:59pm
Hugs to you! I can't tell you what you should do because I'm not you. My baby's dad wanted me to have an abortion, but that isn't something I've ever been comfortable for me. I support them for others that choose but its not for me. I am now almost 19 weeks and its hard not having him involved, but its his loss.

Also make sure whatever decision you make is the best for YOU not everyone else. If you choose abortion, adoption or to keep the baby, no one is the right one. What is right is what you feel is the best option in your heart and one you can be ok with. Having a baby young is hard, but its not the end of the world. Thoughts to you while you make your decision, whatever that is.

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Thank you Dedi and Kelly for my
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Registered: 01-17-2011
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 5:24am
Hugs to you too! Its difficult having to make this decision when the babys dad is set on an abortion =/

Thanks for the comforting words and I hope you have a good pregnancy ^^
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Registered: 01-29-2008
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 7:42pm
It is hard, but I came to the conclusion whether I had an abortion or not he obviously wasn't going to be around and care so I needed to make the decision that was best for me which helped. Good luck.. Keep us posted what you decide!

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Thank you Dedi and Kelly for my
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Registered: 03-27-2011
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 9:31pm
I just want to say that I am not for or against abortion. I feel that it is each woman's decision. Please don't let this guy influence you in any way. You don't know if he will be around in the future or not. But u do know that you will always live with this decision. It is not selfish to bring this baby into the world! You will make it work if that's what u choose. I agree with whomever above said to make this decision with your heart and make it YOURS!
I am 11 weeks pregnant. I am single.. Just made a bad last minute decision to sleep with my ex one last time. He lost it when I told him about being pregnant. I always joke that if most people have issues... He has a cargo plane following him everywhere! But in all seriousness, I've decided to have this baby and I will not be putting the dad on the birth certificate. This is my baby and me decision to choose what life I want for him or her. I feel good about it but I have my crazy rough days! No question! Good luck!!!!
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Registered: 03-28-2011
Tue, 03-29-2011 - 12:18am

I cant imagine what it must feel like to not have the support that should be all so natural when a woman first conceives. Your heart may tell you that you want to keep the child because an abortion can be considered an immoral act. However logic will tell you not to put yourself in a situation where you cant cope, the economy is bad right now, the guy has already decided to not be apart of the childs life. My advice is to learn from your mistakes, if you do get an abortion from here on out you have to be responsible by preventing another pregnancy. Everyone circumstances are different, which ever option you "know", not just "feel", but you know will be best for you. Only you know what is truly best for yourself.