It's okay to be single, and pregnant

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Registered: 07-20-2010
It's okay to be single, and pregnant
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Tue, 07-20-2010 - 5:01am

Hello everyone!,


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Registered: 07-20-2010
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 3:19pm
You have a great attitude. I'm 36, and really excited to be having my first baby! I was doing ok, without the dad, but saw him the other night, talked, and he was so affectionate and sweet, and it just opened up all the old wounds. I was doing ok, but this really threw me off track. Not to mention the rumors and BS from work people. Sometimes they get to me, sometimes not, but right now, everything kinda gets to me
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Tue, 07-20-2010 - 3:53pm

Welcome to the board, and thanks so much for sharing your story!

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Registered: 07-20-2010
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 3:34am

Thanks! well don't worry, I was in the same boat not too long ago, I'm not sure if your close to

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Registered: 10-09-2009
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:24am
Same thing with me.
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Registered: 07-27-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 2:43pm

Hi!


I am another one. I recently found out I am pregnant with my boyfriend's child. We weren't working out, so he decided to end it, my heart wan't ready todo that. So, for days I cried and cried. Days later I messaged him needing desperate need of help, mostly because I don't have anyone. Then, after hours of arguing, he said I never want you to message me or contact me in anyway. I cried even more. He disowend his child before the baby even had a chance, also he wished death on the both of us. I was even more heartbroken, how does someone that you thought loved and adored could say that to your unborn child and you? Well, I dealt with it, by listening to music, and talking to my sister at times when she felt like it... I still and always will love this boy, eventhough he broke my heart. My baby deserves a father, though he doesn't deserve a child. Slowly but surely I'm moving on. I also want to update him about the baby as I get further along. But, unsure about it all.. Even when you are in the deepest and darkest place, you just know with all your heart your child is so much more important than that ever is! At 18 years old, I am struggling to death with this all. But, I know for sure I am going to give him one chance, and if he rebels thats his loss, not mine and defintely not my innocent baby's. God bless you all, good luck!!

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Registered: 08-22-2010
Sun, 08-22-2010 - 11:58pm

Hi ladies,


I am new to the message boards, but in a similar situation. I'm a 25 year old, who has been dating a 36 year old for about 1 year now. When I found out i was pregnant, he damanded the only option was for me to abort the pregnancy. Reasons being (he doesnt feel he is in the financial situation to take care of a child, it was unplanned, and i'm a christian- he jewish). I told him I would never do such a thing, and I gave him the option to choose to be a part of it or not. I must admit it is truely scarey to be in a position like this, however I find comfort in a few things... the following i'll list below:


You have made one of the most important decisions of your life, be proud! It takes a lot of courage to take on this role and your child will appreciate the battle and saracrfices you have made for him/her forever. Whether you are single, married, in a relationship--- there are no promises that any man will stick beside you-- you must truely do whats best for yourself and that baby. And the one thing I keep asking myself is (if this were my child going through this "our babies") what advice would we give them--- we would probably say stay strong, leave those no good men, you and that baby deserve more!!!!


Lastly, with all that said for the future men who come into our lifes (it'll be a lot easier to weed out the bad ones)-- the whole mothers intution. We all have to be strong, no matter what the situation is! We have made the right decision and i truely believe we will all be blessed by God for doing whats right, moral, and BRAVE!!!!


Thanks--Sarah


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Registered: 08-24-2010
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 4:05pm

Hi! I am also in a similar situation. I am 19 and 33 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of over a year just broke up with me a few weeks ago. He is also the baby's father. He talked about marriage, etc. and seemed so happy about having a baby. We lived together. When he broke up with me, I had to move back in with my parents.

It sucks because I feel a little like I took two steps forward and three steps back. I have my moments where I am really depressed about having his baby, and I always feel bad whenever I do. I feel like I'm a bad mom because I sometimes wish he didn't exist and he's not even born yet!!! I know once he gets here (I'm having a boy!) I will love him to death and will do anything I can to provide for and love him. I guess since my bf broke up with me that it gets hard sometimes to look on the bright side of things....its supposed to be a happy event in life to have a baby... you know?

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Registered: 09-13-2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 11:29am
Hello ladie,
I'm right there with you. I'm 26 and about 27 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend walked out on me a little over a week ago and right into the arms of another woman, his ex wife. He won't talk to me anymore except to ask me to mail a few things he left behind. I'm seriously considering selling the stuff to help fund my trip home to my family. They are in Nevada, I am in Georgia... conflicted. What really twists the knife is that he is committing to signing papers on a child of his ex's but acts as if my child and I are nothing... I know I'll get threw this with the love and support of my family and things could always be worse, however that does not take away the pain and sickness in my heart.