new city, no job, pregnant with twins

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Registered: 04-06-2011
new city, no job, pregnant with twins
Wed, 04-06-2011 - 12:03pm

I'm so glad I found this message board.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 04-06-2011 - 4:26pm
(((HUGS))) it's sounds like you made the right decision moving back home. You might want to consider getting your own lawyer and having all communication through them. It does sound like he's trying to use this as a way to control you, I really hope that he decides to leave you alone.

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Registered: 03-22-2011
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 8:59am
What area did u move to?
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Registered: 01-29-2008
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 9:51pm
Hugs to you and welcome to the board. I'm glad you found us! It can feel so isolating in the beginning especially!

I agree with Melissa that if you haven't already check into your own lawyer. You mentioned adoption... have you talked to any adoption agencies? They can help you with the legalities too should you decide to place the babies. Also keep ALL communication he has sent you (text, email, phone calls, etc). Especially if you have proof of his threats or bad behavior because that can be used to keep him from them for their safety.

I think that you are doing some good things and are already a good mom whether you choose to parent or place. You are looking out for you and the babies' best interest which is good! Its hard being in a new place and not being able to do all the things you want and having a difficult baby daddy doesn't help. Just know we are here to support you during this! Keep us posted on you, the babies, and anything else! HUGS!

I'm Katie, 27, widowed and pregnant by a guy who isn't involved. I have 2 grown stepsons and a grandson too! :-)

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