Newly married on the verge of divorce

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Registered: 02-18-2011
Newly married on the verge of divorce
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 2:50pm

Im 14 weeks pregnant and 4 days ago my husband and I had a really heated argument and he has decided he wants a divorce. We still living together along with our 2 other young children. He has already started talking to another female just 1 day after he said he wanted a divorce. Even though I kind of agree that we dont need to be together is really hard for me to know he is talking to someone else so soon. He has the means to move out but refuses to do so. Im dont know how to deal with this situation cause it really hurts me. It would be so much easier to deal with if we didn't have to live together. I feel like if he wants to move on so soon then he should leave. I have no income and I live in Florida and I have no family here so I have no where else to go. He has income and plenty of options. His claim is that we jus got this apt together and we have been waiting for it for a year so he's not leaving.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 4:26pm

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:09pm
Hugs to you!! First off I don't think stress will negatively affect your pregnancy considering the fact I have 5 friends off the top of my head that were pregnant when their husbands were killed and they went on to have healthy and happy babies. Can it? Sure but so can a ton of other stuff so I wouldn't stress about being stressed.

Second I do agree that he should be the one to move out. You are pregnant AND have two other kids. If he choses to leave, you can file for child support, WIC, and welfare. Not what you want to do I'm sure, but they are there for you. He will be required to support the kids. I also wonder like Melissa if there was another woman before he asked for the divorce. Hugs sweetie! This isn't what you want to deal with but there are options for you!!

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Registered: 04-24-2011
Sun, 04-24-2011 - 2:12am
Hey there I was just in your similar situation. I moved to tx got pregnant endured infidelity and abuse from my ex had my baby the abuse continued got pregnant again after reconciling then it started all over again this time it was him leaving out of state to see his "friends" .... The list goes on and on I decided to leave it was enough and my kids deserved more than to see a disrespectful and abusive drunkard as a father. If you have family willing to help reach out to them. Sometimes a separation is good .... It'll be hard but nothing in life is impossible. :) blessings to your family