NOt a good convo..

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Registered: 01-10-2012
NOt a good convo..
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Sat, 01-14-2012 - 9:24pm

I am a divorced mom of three. I just found out I'm pregnant at 41 (with an IUD) carrying the child of my bf of just over a year. This is his first. I want to be happy. I want HIM to be happy...but he's giving me mixed signals.

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Registered: 05-09-2011
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 1:58am

He may not be ready for a baby and was under the impression that you wouldn't get pregnant because of the IUD. Either way, it happened and he will likely need some time to adjust. But don't write him off just yet... he may come aorund at some point. Soemthing very similar happened to me... I was on birth control (Depo) and ended up getting pregnant. The father and I broke up shortly after I found out and hardly communicated at all during my pregnancy. Any communication we did have was hurtful and nasty. My son was born and his father came to see him a couple times in the first couple weeks and then things went downhill again. A few months passed and my son's father is back in the picture... and I think it's for good now. He's started paying some child support and is very good with our son. He can only see him on the weekends right now because I moved kind of far away (1.5 hours), but text messages through out the day to see how we're doing and stuff. I never in a million years would have thought that things would be where they are right now... it's so great to see my son with his father and to hear his father tell him that he loves him.