Please help! I need advice/guidance

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Registered: 05-29-2010
Please help! I need advice/guidance
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 10:18pm

I'm so confused as what to do and I need advice / guidance,

So I'm 7 weeks pregnant and my ex continues to this day trying to talk me into having an abortion and it is destroying me inside.

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Registered: 06-16-2010
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 4:34am
Hi well congratulations on your pregnancy :)
I am almost 32 weeks pregnant with my first child I suffer from depression too and the person I got pregnant by wanted nothing to do with me I barely knew him and he pressured me to get an abortion multiple times and me myself thought about it often but even though there are many stresses in my life I would just die if i ever did get that abortion because this child growing inside of me and growing inside if you is a blessing don't let no man no one make your decisions for you ...If you really wanted a child and now you have one growing inside of you I would keep that baby :) I wish you all the best of luck.
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Registered: 10-26-2008
Wed, 06-16-2010 - 10:30pm
I totally understand how you are feeling. I am 34 years old and 32 weeks pregnant and the father of my baby left soon after I found out I was pregnant. Now he is off dating and sleeping with all sorts of girls (it's gross!) I know when the baby is born he's going to want to see the baby but it's not happening. I debated a lot when I found out I was pregnant and although I am happy with my decision it is hard doing this alone. I've had some really bad days and bad weeks when I've felt very alone and scared. I have to keep telling myself that soon I will have a precious baby I've always wanted. It's what keeps me going. However I don't want to tell you it's all good cause it's not. I cry a lot and I will have to deal with the father probably coming in and out of my life forever. Also even though it's 2010 and nobody should be judgmental they are. People make comments, ask questions about the father, and talk behind your back. You have to keep your head high and ignore all of it. I can't tell you what to do but if you've always wanted children then this is your chance even though the situation is not ideal. It's hard but I believe worth it in the end. You should talk to your doctor about your depression as needed. I wish you all the best no matter what you decide!
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 3:36pm

How are you doing?

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Registered: 07-14-2010
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 3:40pm

If you want to keep your child, and you do not want him in your life what so ever.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 1:47am


Hang in there, noone knows what best for you beside yourself.