Preggers and single

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Registered: 02-28-2010
Preggers and single
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Sun, 02-28-2010 - 10:43pm
Hi. I'm Kristy and I'm 22 years old. I am now 13 weeks pregnant. I found out I was pregnant when I was 5 weeks and when I told my boyfriend of a year and a half I was pregnant he said "Well, I saw that one coming, do you want it, cause I don't know if I do." Which was just what I wanted to hear from the man I loved! NOT! He got better after about a week and was AMAZING, then BOOM! EVERYTHING came out...He lied to me about almost EVERYTHING! I felt like I didn't even know him. I found out he had cheated on me 3 times (once with a 55 year old woman- he's 27, then with that woman's DAUGHTER, then with some other girl he claims I know, but won't tell me who. He says it's that girls fault because she knew me and knew I was dating him, but still came on to him and he "couldn't resist because he's a guy and couldn't say no.") Then I discovered he had a wrap sheet the size of Texas and was in PRISON for 3 years, he had also gotten 3 other girls pregnant and "convinced" them to get abortions, lied to me about getting tested for STDs and surprise, surprise he has had a mad case of genital herpes for the past 8 years! To top it off, he was extremely very verbally abusive and when we had a fight once when he knew I was pregnant he grabbed me from behind and slammed me down on the concrete in front of his house, I still have scars from it. He got drunk one night and spilled the beans that he had been selling drugs and lying to me about working because I would "bitch" if he told me what he was really up to. The list goes on and on. The last straw was when I finally stood up for myself and broke up with him. He threatened me and it ended in my calling the police and filing a report. Oddly enough the officer taking my report knew him and advised me to get and injunction immediately and get out of the state if I could. WOW! Wake up call! So, I went to the courthouse the nest day and moved out of state the day after that. I am blessed to have a supportive family and friends, but I still think about him all the time. It's depressing, but I try to think about what's best for the baby and obviously, it's not him. He's an alcoholic, drug dealing/doing, lying, manipulating, abusive fool and he doesn't know what he's missing. I'm going to be the best mother this baby could ever ask for and they are better off without him in their life and I think they will thank me later on in life. I tried to reconnect with him for the baby's sake a few weeks back and he swore up and down that he was going to be there, but I haven't heard a word since and I'm now hoping it stays that way. I'm just like the many of you, sad and feeling alone, but I have my faith and I have my baby, that's all I think about now. We will get through this and we are better off. Good luck to everyone. I know we could all use it!
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Registered: 03-01-2010
Mon, 03-01-2010 - 3:41pm
WOW! your story is very motivating