Pregnant, Alone && Single.

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Pregnant, Alone && Single.
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 1:51am
Hi! I'm 4months pregnant, alone and Single. My baby's father hasn't supported my pregnancy since the first day I told him I was pregnant back in June. Prior to me getting pregnant everything was fine between the two of us, once I told him I was pregnant he told me he didn't want anything to do with me or my baby. It's really hurtful because he already has a child from a previous relationship who he has no problem supporting but my child is a completely different story. He tried to hide my pregnancy at the beginning but I told his family now he's threatening to put a restraining order on me and he's also asking for a paternity test now. He has said so many hurtful and hateful things to me it's ridiculous. I have never felt so betrayed and hurt in my life. I haven't been able to really enjoy my pregnancy because I'm dealing with his crap and the lack of support from my family. I just feel so alone, I'm always so emotional and moody. I just hope eventually he chooses to come around for the sake of our child not me. I know what it's like to have a deadbeat father and I'd hate for my child to go through the same thing, Thanks! Xoxo -Hallbby
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Wed, 08-29-2012 - 10:44am
Hi Hallbby,

I'm so sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a difficult situation during your pregnancy. I can certainly understand why you are upset and why the things he is saying are so hurtful. You mentioned that your family isn't supportive. Do you have friends you an lean on during this difficult time? Please know that we are here for you so if you ever need to vent out your frustrations, please do so here. Gentle ((((HUGS))) coming your way. Take care and update us when you can!

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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 11:21am
I am sorry you feel alone at this time. Is this your first baby? In an ideal world the father would be happy to have and support a baby, but not all worlds are ideal. Sometime you just have to walk away from the hurt and live for the future with you baby, without the deadbeat dad. In the long run you may be WAY better off without him.