Pregnant and Abandoned..I could really use some helpful wisdom!
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|Mon, 02-06-2012 - 10:17pm|
After trying for over a year to get pregnant and after a miscarriage, three weeks ago my fiance and I found out we are expecting! Im so blessed and excited to have this opportunity, due to health conditions Ive had from childhood my chances for conceiving were always extremely low, and I had all but given up on having a child of my own when I woke up when morning and felt that awful pain in my breast- only a pregnant woman can understand how something so painful can bring a smile to your face :) The problem is that after finding out that we had conceived, my fiance of two years who had planned all of this with me just up and decided he didnt want to be with me anymore. Im not naive and I grew up around some pretty terrible relationships so I know that a lot of times people in love cant see whats truly in front of them, but Brett and I truly never had any real issues. He was my best friend and we enjoyed every minute together. He fits right in with my entire family and everyone loves him as if hes always been there. And despite the fact that we were seeing a fertility specialist and hoping and praying for this miracle...now he doesnt want it? I keep trying to just let it go because I know that stress is not okay for the baby or myself, especially with my health, but Im just so confused as to how to feel right now. I love him so very much and I would do anything for all of this to disappear and for us to have that perfect family that we planned and hoped for, but at the same time I was raised to stand up for myself and not let anyone treat me badly. My parents had an extremely dysfunctional relationship and the way my father treated my mother-I promised myself noone would ever make me feel that way. And ever since we found out the baby is on its way, everything out of my fiances mouth is demeaning and hurtful. And as much as I love him and know that he is just scared, I dont think that he has any right to talk down to me or to hurt me. I know I may sound like some hopeless young romantic but Im really not. I know the real world is tough. This engagment is actually my second-my first was to my highschool sweetheart who I lost to cancer several years ago. I know heartache and I know how I must sound weeping over my fiance leaving when I should be so overjoyed with the fact that Im having a baby! Something I never expected I would be able to do! So I guess