pregnant and single!!!

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Registered: 01-21-2011
pregnant and single!!!
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 8:01am

ahhh what a rubbish few months it has been...

i am currently nearly 4 and a half months pregnant.. all is going well with the baby which is great, but i cant help thinking - am i doing the wrong thing????

i was with my ex partner for a year and a half, at first things were going great - he treated me like a princess and made me feel soo special, i loved him to pieces, we got engaged and were planning our wedding and then the bombshell came - he had slept with someone else!! i was heartbroken.. but after long chats and him telling me what a mistake it

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 1:55pm
Hi jm2787, Your story sounds exactly like mine.. This is my first pregnancy, Im 4 months along, my baby's father cheated with his ex, left when I was 5 weeks, deleted me from facebook, and I havent spoken to him, ect. He, too, wanted me to get an abortion, even after he knew that that was something I could never go through. He and I go to the same college so I dread running into him on this small campus..

Although he has done all he could to hurt me and has already made threats against my unborn baby, I know that I made the right decision in choosing my baby over him. Every day I go to bed and wake up knowing that the life I am carrying is greater than my ex and I. He, just like all men, dont understand that women go through so much, and we are often alone, which makes it scarier. Thankfully, you and I have a supportive family. I hope that by the time our children are older to ask questions, their fathers will be more positive and supporting, but just in case they are not, we need to remember that it is and will forever be about our babies. They will be the source of our strength and motivation, and I hope that it gets better for us both.
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Registered: 01-29-2008
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 7:46pm
Hugs to you!! I am so saddened that so many of us have baby's dads like this! UGh! Glad you have supportive friends and family, that helps. YOU didn't do anything bad, its all his doing. I couldn't have an abortion either and hope that the baby's dad comes around one day, and the door will be open for that but I know we will be ok (me and baby). I think seeing the counselor is a good idea and hopefully they help some! I don't think your baby is going to think ill of you. I think they will see you as a strong woman and glad you made the decision you did. HUGS!

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