Pregnant, scared, and I don't know what to do! Advice please!

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Registered: 04-14-2012
Pregnant, scared, and I don't know what to do! Advice please!
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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 12:54am

My name is Taylor. I posted on another board but decided to post here as well. I really could use advice. I just found out recently that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I went to my OB-GYN after taking a pregnancy test. The thing I need advice about is well this is so unplanned. I am almost 22 years old and almost done with college. My boyfriend, Ethan is three years older than me. He is really smart and is attending graduate school. We have been together for two almost three years now. I love him so much. I am nervous to tell him that I am pregnant. I know it is his as I haven't been with anyone else. I just am really scared to tell Ethan that I am pregnant for many reasons. He is busy with graduate school and even though we are together I don't want him to feel like he has to give up graduate school for any reason. I am scared that he will want to marry me because I am pregnant. I want to marry him but I want him to marry me because he wants to not just because I am pregnant. I am also scared to tell him because I don't know what he will say. I mean we have talked about getting married but wanted to wait to even get engaged awhile. I am scared because I know a baby will change everything.

I haven't really told anyone that I am pregnant. I told my younger sister, Sutton, because her and I are very close. I haven't told my parents yet and I don't know how to tell them either. I just don't know what to do. This is just so unexpected and I am nervous and scared. I want to have this baby but I just don't know how to tell people. I also don't know how to tell Ethan because I love him and I am afraid he will leave. Ethan is a good guy so I guess I shouldn't be afraid of that but I had a friend whose boyfriend left her when she got pregnant so it worries me. I know Ethan isn't like my friend's boyfriend but she didn't think her boyfriend would leave. I am just nervous and would appreciate any advice on how to tell Ethan, my parents, or on what to do.

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Registered: 03-14-2012

Hi Taylor,

I can relate to the way you are feeling right now - I faced similar circumstances with my first pregnancy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2012

Hi Taylor--

Babies seem to come at the most inconvient times:smileytongue: or so it seems.

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Registered: 04-14-2012
Thank you both so much! After reading what you both said and talking to a counselor, I told my boyfriend. Ethan is really happy and excited to be a father. He did propose and he told me that he has wanted to for awhile. I am very happy that I have him. I told my parents and the rest of my family. My dad and brother both surprised me by being very supportive. My mom was shocked but excited, she is talking all wedding plans now. You both helped so much and I will definitely keep you updated. Thank you both!
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Registered: 03-14-2012

That is awesome, I'm so happy to learn of your family's and your boyfriend's reactions -- and that he proposed to you!