Shocked...

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Registered: 11-19-2011
Shocked...
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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 7:08pm

I recently took a vacation in Mexico, met this awesome guy day 1 of my stay we were inseperable, I live in ontario and he lives in Quebec, we had decided to stay in touch and see if we could make it work. When i got back to my home, trying to get back to my routine, i realized there was something wrong... i started thinking back to my vacation, and remembered moments when we werent so careful... got worried, and realized i missed my period. Took about 6 home pregnancy test that came back positive. I decided to go get bloodwork to confirm.... and yes it was confirmed. My first thought was to contact him and tell him.... he was so upset, he called me irresponsable, that i should of known better, that he wants nothing to do with a baby. Upset is the correct word to describe how i feel. He decided to talk again tonight and he is trying to convince me to have an abortion. I cant and i told him! Therefore he wants nothing to do with me anymore. Since this was not part of his plan, was not part of mine either. But i will assume my responsibilities... I am just so sad, i never expected to bring my first child into this world under these circumstances... I always dreamed of the tradiational conventional way of things...

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 12:00pm
Hi there,

I wanted to offer you some giant (((HUGS))). It sounds like you are feeling such a wide range of emotions and I think it is normal to be scared. I'm so very happy to hear that you have such a great support system on your side with your family and friends. Lean on them and let them help you along the way as I'm sure they'll be a great support during your pregnancy journey. Have you completely cut ties with the father of your baby? Has he been in contact with you at all since he tried to talk you into having an abortion?

Sending you tons of (((HUGS))). You aren't alone in this and I hope you continue to visit here for friendship and support along the way.

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Registered: 11-19-2011
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 7:54pm

Thank you so much for your kind words!!! I have decided to stop contacting the 'father' just putting me in too much stress right now. But he knows that if he eventually changes his mind he can contact me (no he has not tried to contact me). I find myself becoming more and more excited about this pregnancy. Many have come forward to offer support and many have made me realize that i wont be the first or the last single mother. I will be preparing myself along this pregnancy to be a good mother, i plan on taking parenting classes!!!