Single 27 weeks pregnant placenta previa

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Registered: 04-06-2011
Single 27 weeks pregnant placenta previa
Wed, 04-06-2011 - 11:37pm
Hello :) I am 21 years old and currently 26 weeks 5 days pregnant. The father of my baby lost his son at age 14 due to cystic fybrosis almost one year ago :( extremely hard stuff. When he found out I was pregnant he got extremely scared an pulled away. He did want me to have an abortion but I could not bring myself to do it. I have been single this entire pregnancy, he has helped with financial means to which I appreciate but when it comes to emotional support and going through this with someone else he hasn't been there. Can I blame him? No I can't hate or despise him we can still talk but we don't do it verry often. I have been tested for the CF gene and I am negative so the chances of my baby having cf is verry low. It has been extremely hard going to sleep and wakin up alone day after day month after month but it does hurt less as time goes on. At 21 weeks I was diagnosed with placenta previa ( probably due to a surgery I went through where I had a miscarriage when I was 16 years old and 18 weeks pregnant.when the doctor took the baby out he cut my uterus I was cut like a c section so they could sew me up and had 13 staples across my lap) my doctor told me I may need a hysterectomy if the placenta attached to my previous scarring, pelvic rest and ordered me to stay in the city because if I start hemmoroiging( sorry sp) I need to get to the hospital ASAP. Well I didn't live in the city so I moved here from a small town 25 min out. The night after the dr told me to stay in the city I had a dream I opened a fortune cookie that read "it's in your best intrest to move" so I did, I also was scared living out of the city what I would do if something happened since I lived alone and don't drive and whether I would make it to te hospital in time. Well I have lived in the city now for less then a week, definately feel relieved as I am a 10 min walk from the hospital but also verry lonely and I do t know anyone here. I still try to keep my spirits up as I have always looked at the bright side of things and believe everything happends for a reason. I do get sad and lonely, I haven't had sex for 6.5 months and now am on pelvic rest which means no orgasm either! Lol sometimes I feel unwanted, I wish most for the babies father to lay with me and wrap his arms around me but I am gradually coming to terms and just trying to stay happy for my babies and my sake. To all you single moms to be there is always a reason and the hardships in life make you who you are and in my life my hardships have only made me a better more compassionate person. Remember to love life and don't fear change. Women are unbelievably strong at will that's why we hold the babies, don't men realize we wish we could run away and hide too? But we don't we stand and face it head on for we are the child bearers we are magnificent and beautiful. <3
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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 1:42pm
Thank you for sharing your story, you are so strong! Please keep us posted on how you are doing, (((HUGS))).

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 9:45pm
Welcome to the board and for sharing your story with us. I'm sorry that your baby's father isn't emotionally there for you, but glad he is helping you in other aspects. That's hard about his son, and I'm sure brings up all sorts of emotions on his end too. Do you know what you are having?

Sorry about the placenta previa, but I've heard of it moving before birth so you still have some time to see if it does! Pelvic rest doesn't sound like fun! :-( I think the move you may find good for you. Sometimes a change of scenery can help, though is hard. At least you aren't too far from "home" so hopefully your support system is still there for you! Hugs to you!

Keep us posted on how YOU are doing, as well as the pregnancy! I wish you all the best and hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth!

I'm Katie, 27,widowed and pregnant by a guy who I haven't seen since I was 6 weeks pregnant. I have 2 grown stepsons and a grandson and little man due in June! :-)

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