Still single and pregnant again!

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Registered: 01-15-2011
Still single and pregnant again!
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 10:21pm
So this probably sounds crazy. I am almost 30 and happily divorced with a beautiful 4 year old daughter. I was recently supposed to marry a man I had been seeing for the past three and a half years and I called everything off. I'm 2 months pregnant. It was twins but only one survived. Well... I cut this Guy loose because he never buys anything nice for me, not even an engagement ring. He has no savings and does not believe in it and has the potential to save 1000 or more a month. When budgeting and figuring out how to join bank accounts he tries to tell me all his plans for new stuff with my money when we need for nothing. To make it worse I found out he spends a hefty amount of money on pornography every month and tried to lie to me and tell me all the charges were fraudulent. Sure! He also let me look on his laptop after taking a couple days trying to delete his trails but the idiot didn't delete his trashbox. Talk about feeling suckered. He even tried to tell me I'm trapped whether i come to terms with it or not. Lol. I have my own place and pay all my bills and take care of myself and my daughter quite well. I actually make a lil more than he does. So I laugh because I have raised my daughter by myself and I am not dealing with a lieing man with sexual addictions. I don't care if I'm pregnant. Men can be quite Dumb. Women don't have to put up with the lies and BS anymore. Its the 21st century. Has anyone had similar experiences?
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Registered: 11-15-2005
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 12:28am
I totally agree and feel the same way. People keep asking me are you going to move back in with your ex-Dh (because I am expecting again) and when I say NO they look stunned like really? A strong single women can't do it alone? why are you so shocked. Ugh! People. lol Good for you girl. Glad your here! :)

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 01-19-2011 - 10:33am

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and for being such a strong woman!

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:03pm
Welcome to the board. Sounds like you were smart to call it off before he depleated your accounts too! Sorry he's a dud, but sounds like you are in a good place to do it. Congrats on the baby! Is your daughter excited?

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 2:19pm

hi im 26 and 10 weeks pregnant and facing been a single parent for the second time..i have a 2 year old daughter who i have brought on my own..i was engaged to a guy for over a year and the pregnacy was planed and i have recentently found out that the guy has been stealing money off me and not even coming home some night so he has been using it to go out drinking..he never brought anythink nice for me ither and i never got a engagment ring ither as he couldnt afford it..cant even afford to help me pay my rent so he has cost me so much money...i feel as tho im better off as a single parent..i have now kicked him out and have found that food and everythink is costing less as i was paying for him to and yer i know what you mean ive heard enough of the lies..oh ill be earing good money soon lol yer right...just thought it would be nice to get in toutch with women in the same situation xxx