Stress making me go into preterm labor

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Registered: 01-31-2010
Stress making me go into preterm labor
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Fri, 04-23-2010 - 12:32am

Hello ladies! :)


Ok, so to start this off... with a smiley face because I am trying to be positive positive positive now. But I do have a few concerns and also telling my story I hope can help some other women avoid my mistakes. So here goes...


Well, As you can see from my ther posts on here I have been thru alot, the daddy hasnt been there and I am living in a nother state now away from him with my mother where i have family to be near me during this time, just been trying to get my life together, going thru a whole life change process until she is born. I have had my worst days... but I am not trying to make the relationship with him work anymore or even putting hope on it so that helps ALOT... but anywhoo... I have like two and a half more months to go as you can see from my pregnancy ticker and I have been getting help from my family getting the baby her things together for her arrival.. so far her main needs like her crib and stroller have been met but lil dumb ol me decided to email my ex and as him to pitch in and he responded saying he will go and get her stuff himself but I told him I already got her crib and stroller and my family has stuff for me when my baby shower comes so if he wants to help he can pitch in at least a percentage with his family of what me and my fam spent. Ok ok, so I guess I should have been happy he was even saying to help at all but helloooo his plan didnt make sense and i am so bitter all this time and now he wants to take control everything!!! I just thought he should share some of responsibility, especially since he was MIA the wholeeee pregnany doing his thing. So anyways it ended up in a fight and he said i dont need him since my family is helping me and he will fight me for custody when she is born... woah i got so pissed. How does a guy be mia for all this time and not even help me get medical or ask how she is EVER and blow me off all this time... shoot i even had to live in a motel for

Lilypie Maternity tickers
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Fri, 04-23-2010 - 5:48pm

You do not have to give her his last name. Have you decided whether or not you'll be putting him on the birth certificate?


He won't win custody but he may get visitation. Since he lives in a different state, it really depends on the law in your state. A judge usually won't give overnight visitation until after the first year if the mother is breastfeeding. Has he ever been in any trouble for drugs or alcohol? If it ever comes to it (which I doubt it will... if he's lazy now he'll be lazy when she's here too) you could always say you're concerned about his drug problem and ask them to drug test him before he sees her. If he smokes every day and is unwilling to change, he'll quickly get bored with the whole fight. Also, wtf does he have to offer? He lives with a bunch of guys... Why would he want to ruin that? Babies have a way of making your life harder and he's apparently


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Fri, 04-23-2010 - 6:12pm
Thank you allison. That advice helped alot. I will ask a lawyer see if i can get free advice. I appreciate the help sooo much.
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Lilypie Maternity tickers
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Fri, 05-28-2010 - 1:45am

If you are living in Texas now, you are especially safe from him.