Torn, Terrified and Confused!!!!

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Torn, Terrified and Confused!!!!
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Thu, 12-01-2011 - 11:58am

I'm 29 years old , 17 weeks pregnant, and I am glad that I'm single!!!

 

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 1:34pm
Hi there,

Welcome to the board and thank you so much for taking the time to introduce yourself and all that you are dealing with right now. You have a lot on your plate, that's for sure.

I obviously don't know you but I can tell that you are a very smart and brave woman. You were able to get out of an unhealthy relationship, even if it meant putting yourself in a bad financial situation. I have a feeling that should you move out of state, you would be just fine. However, family is important and I can certainly understand why they'd want you and their grand baby near.

Have you thought about moving in with family until you are able to get yourself into a better financial situation? I'm guessing that even six months or so of not having to pay rent would put you in a much better position to get out on your own again. If that's not an option, I think downgrading your living situation would be a good way to go. If you could find a cheaper apartment, or even a roommate, it sounds like it would help a great deal.

Here's a link to the debt support group on iVillage. They may have some other financial advice/suggestions to share with you.

Debt Support Group- http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Debt-Support-Group/ct-p/iv-mlsupport

Hang in there and keep us posted on how you are doing. Huge (((HUGS))) coming your way.

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