25 Week Update: The Good, The Bad (X-Post)

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25 Week Update: The Good, The Bad (X-Post)
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 9:25pm

I had a growth scan and cervix check today, and I am happy to report that all 3 babies are growing normally. They weigh approximately 1lb 11 oz, 1lb 11oz and 1lb 10oz, and all other measurements and heart rates are within normal ranges. I'm glad that their measurements are closer to each other because they were a bit varied a month ago. I am so happy that they are doing well, I just hope they plan on staying in there for a while longer...

The bad news is that my cervix is not holding up. It is dilating already (not sure how much because my brain is mush right now) and shrinking/funneling. The sonographer took a lot of measurements and I knew right away by looking at it that it had shrunk and begun opening...she even did a t/v u/s to get a clearer picture. The physician on duty prescribed bed rest, but I've already been on bed rest and not sure how much less I can do. I literally go from bed to the couch every day, kick my feet up and only get up to go to the bathroom or eat. I don't run errands and my belly is too big to drive so I've been bound to the house for almost 8 weeks. I'm just so confused and heartbroken. I have an appt with my dr tomorrow morning to discuss everything and figure out what to do.

The crappiest part is that I'm supposed to move in 10 days...I've been staying at my mom's house in Northern CA while DH gets our house packed out in HI. He gets here next Wednesday (haven't seen him in 2 months) and we're supposed to make the drive down to Southern CA, get our house set up and settled for the triplets' arrival. I don't know what I'll do if I'm stuck up here indefinitely until after these babies are born. DH has to report to his new ship and attend school so it's not like he can just stay here with me if I can't make the move.

I was supposed to take belly pics today but I'm just not in the mood. I'm so sad...everything just seemed to be going so well and now this curveball. I know that people get put on bed rest to help with this kind of thing, but I've already been on it and it hasn't prevented this from happening so far.

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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 10:14pm
Oh Kim, I'm so so sorry. I wish I had more to offer besides prayers and hugs.

Is there any way for you to lay down in the van enough to make the drive to the new home? I know CA is huge so I'm guessing it's a 8 hour drive?
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 11:12pm

FX that eveything turns out ok. Sending lots of P&PT's your way. Please KUP!!

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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 11:32pm
Thanks ladies.

Elissa - yeah, it's an 8 hour drive. I just have to wait until I see doc tomorrow. Of course I've been googling funneling cervix (I know, stay away from Dr. Google lol) and bed rest seems to be the norm. For now I'm just brain fried and gonna watch Big Brother. ;-)
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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:35am
Big hugs!! I hope the babies can wait out the normal time for a triplet pregnancy (31 weeks) at least but I am glad to hear they are all so big already! My only suggestion would be lay with your hips elevated at night, if you can do so comfortably. I takes all the pressure off the cervix and can help prevent some more dilation etc. Have they thought about maybe going a cerclage?

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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:12am
I'm glad that they are growing well and will keep my fingers crossed that your cervix behaves itself. Sorry that the move is adding to the stress, I hope they find a way to transport you (maybe via medical transport?)
For now get as much rest as you can and stay away from google!
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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 2:31pm

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm still a bit distraught, and not necessarily feeling any better after chatting with doc yesterday. I'm most definitely on strict bed rest which I'm totally fine with...I'd be on it forever if it kept my bambinos in there for a lot longer. I have a f/u u/s next Thursday followed by meeting with doc on Friday. We'll assess the whole moving situation at that point, but doc actually seemed okay with it as long as I can lay down, which is totally doable. She knows where we're going and the hospital I've already been set up at and feels good about the care I'll receive. It's just the 8 hours in transit that are a bit scary. I'm really on the fence about this whole situation.

She brought up shots to speed up the maturation of the babies' lungs and that scares me to no end. I was bawling right there on the table just thinking about it...the reality of this is more intense than anything I could have imagined. I realize that the shots would be good for them, but the thought of needing them and that I may have these babies soon just breaks my heart. There's no amount of reassurance I can get out of knowing that I'm being cared for by excellent docs with a great NICU and medical advances...it's just plain too early for them to be here.

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 7:23pm
(((Kim))) The test is the fFN, and it can be a great diagnostic tool. Make sure your insurance covers it, I had one done and got a bill for $1500. I declined further tests over the price. :-/

I hope you find distractions until dh is home.
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Sun, 08-07-2011 - 2:16pm

Oh Kim. I know there aren't any words I can share to make the feeling go away or to completely reassure you. Just know that I'm thinking about you and hoping/praying your little beans stay put as long as possible.

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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 3:45am

((hugs)) Kim! That's so hard... you have a cerclage in, no??? I started dilating and cervix funneling at 26 weeks which freaked me out, but the progression remained slow until I delivered at 33. The FFN test can rule out "imminent labor" but a positive does NOT mean definitively that you WILL go into labor, so don't let a positive result completely freak you out. Bedrest and good monitoring and as positive an attitude as you can muster right now are all you can do. Those three lil ones may surprise us all and keep baking for a long long time yet!!

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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:23am
You ladies are the best. I've been researching the fFN test just to educate myself on it because I never even knew such a thing existed! Obviously I want it to be negative but know a + doesn't mean they'll necessarily come right away. But i know I'll still freak out if it is +. Elissa, so far everything has been covered but I will definitely double check. That's a sizable bill for what seems to be a simple test..but I guess it always works out that way.

Hearing your ladies' experiences is truly helpful...if they take after their mom they'll be very stubborn and this is one instance I want that to be the case! I do not have a cerclage in. Up until this appt my cervix was doing fine, so that's a bit of added worry that it started opening in just 2 weeks. Hopefully my decreased activity (I'm up maybe 15 min cumulative throughout the day for potty breaks) will slow things down.

I'm laying in bed now and feel them moving...I just want them to stay in, not only to grow strong, but so I can savor being pregnant a bit longer. And Baby A needs to stop doing head stands and dancing on my cervix!
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