Umm... can we talk about sex?

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Umm... can we talk about sex?
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Sun, 09-20-2009 - 5:11pm

So, I almost don't want to write this, but I have to know if anyone else feels the same way.

I just do NOT like sex anymore. I'm not sure why in particular... my stomach makes it awkward, but I had no problems with sex during my boys' pregnancies. Something about it being twins is making a difference...

Also, it just feels... weird. Like, not the same, not as good... ?!

And, I HATE that after I have the big O, I get BH contractions... I know they are ok, but it makes me nervous.

If it were just me, I wouldn't have sex the rest of the pregnancy... but my poor husband. Every week or two, I say ok, but I never like it much. It's more of a very nice favor I do for him (he'd be so upset if he read this!).

Does any one else feel similar? Or, not... tell me you think I'm crazy, that's ok too. LOL

~ Rachel

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Registered: 06-14-2005
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 8:18pm

I am not having any sex at all! For one thing I can't since I have a low lying placenta and that's one of my restrictions. But even before that was diagnosed I had decided that I would not have any sex for the whole pregnancy because I've had two miscarriages and I'm not taking any chances this time. I know it sucks for my dh although so far he hasn't complained. I just keep reminding him that once it's all over it will be better because I'm having my tubes tied during the c-section so it will be better than ever! I feel like this is a sacrifice we both can make for our sweet babies. Plus I'm just not that interested to tell you the truth!!!!

Beth

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 8:23pm
No, you are not crazy! I usually only want it about once every 2wks. The bigger I get, the less I want it. I think about it alot, but I feel so uncomfortable afterwards. I also get BH right after I O, and then my legs go numb whenever I am on my feet for about the next 24 hrs. It doesn't matter if we DTD at night or in the morning, I still get numb legs. I am sure it is a pinched nerve somehow, but it is so unpleasant. Next time, I am going to try avoiding being on my back at all and see if that helps. Has your dr. talk about pelvic rest to you yet? Mine said I am find for now, but to expect it later. We'll see.

Angela


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Sun, 09-20-2009 - 9:35pm

Ummm....what's that. We are also not having sex. I had some spotting and a bleed early on so my DH is super paranoid. I had a really wierd feeling after O'ing once so no interest on my part either. My Dr. told me that it was off limits after 26 weeks anyways. Obviously not

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:33pm

I HATED sex during my twin pregnancy. It was uncomfortable, I was the size of Shamu, I couldn't O and if I actually did it was painful and led to more BH than usual. I was never put on pelvic rest but I put myself on it about 24 weeks into things. I just couldn't physically handle it. So different than with ODD, I wanted sex 24/7 with her.

I hate to admit it but I still don't have my drive back. But I am nursing the twins, so my hormones are out of wack still


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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 2:19pm

Hey Guys


We put ourselves on pelvic rest after I had the beeding early on.

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 3:08pm
We're not doing it here either. I had bleeding at just before 6 wks, 2 spotting episodes, and 2 m/c's earlier this year. I don't want to take any chances! My husband is being pretty understanding but he struggles w/it from time to time. I feel bad for him but I'm just not willing to risk doing anything that might harm the babies. Heck, if I can give up caffeine (after a 20 yr addiction) and hair coloring (you should see my grey!), he can wait on the sex thing for awhile!
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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 5:31pm

Ask me again, when the nausea stops, ok?

poor hubby though. he wants to worship the goddess & the goddess is like (GO AWAY!) yeah sucketh! for everyone. This too shall pass!

eventually, when they are, uh, older, yeah that's it, older.

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Tue, 09-22-2009 - 2:05pm

THANK YOU... you all made me feel so much more normal. And I remember from my boys that AFTER they are born, sex will suck for awhile too. So, sex is probably going to be on the bottom of the list for quite some time, lol.

The odd thing is sometimes I feel like I want to do it, but then when I do, I regret it... kind of like being hungry, but every time you eat, you feel sick. But you still feel hungry!

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Rachel & Eli, with Menachem (7/99) and Eliezer (11/01)


Three angels, we miss you! 11/03, 5/04, 12/04




Pregnant after TTC for six years... !



Injectables cycle, Gonal-F & Ovidrel, two follicles



Beta hCG #1, at 14 dpo = 399



Beta hCG #2, at 17 dpo = 1,175 !!



First u/s June 14th: Saw a sac, 12 by 14 mm. (Still too early to see more!)


Second u/s June 25th: Saw TWO heartbeats, TWO babies. Twins!!!!


Twins Ultrasound







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Rachel & Eli, with DS1 (7/99) and DS2 (11/01) and twins DD1 & DS3 (01/20)

Three angels, we miss you! 11/03, 5/04, 12/04

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Tue, 09-22-2009 - 2:49pm
Sex after my twins was so much disappointing than after ODD. I guess it was because
my uterus was stretched so much more, it took longer for me to able to O normally. At least now it is back to normal. :-). My hormones aren't but my response is.

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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 9:06am
I am with everything you said and also taxiemama. I am not really in the mood, big belly in way and BH afterwards. I also have pain in my legs afterwards that is so bad I have to lie down. This is really a passion killer. I asked the Dr and the nurse last time and basically they did not know. The Dr literally shrugged. Very frustrating. DH says "does this mean we are done" I said "no it is just that I am a little afraid as I am so sore afterwards. I never had these problems with my son.

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