advice on multiples and new job

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Registered: 07-17-2010
advice on multiples and new job
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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 1:19pm
So, I found out I was pregnant and was offered a new job in the same week. Very happy news and a little overwhelming. I took the position and gave notice at my current job. I am 6 weeks and will start my new job mid August. I just found out yesterday that I have 5 embryos. We have agreed to selective reduction if all end up being viable but that still leaves the possibility of triplets. I have read that all multiple pregnancies are considered high risk. My worry is that this may not be the best time to start a new job. Luckily the woman who hired me and will be my supervisor is a friend and knows all about my pregnancy. But I will be on probation for the first 6 months and am not sure if she will be the only one making the decision about me staying on, especially if for some reason i have to go out on leave before my probation period ends. I still have time to rescind my resignation and remain at my current job where I have been working for the past 5 years, but haven't really happy there recently, hence my reason for leaving. So confused. I know no one can tell me what to do and my husband is willing to support me in any decision I make. Any advice would be greatly appreciated though.
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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 2:11pm
Welcome to the board and congratulations on your pregnancy. Is this a desk job where you'll be able to sit a lot, or will you be on your feet most of the time? I'll be honest, I bartended until my 37th week with my ODD, but with the twins I couldn't even pick her toys up at the end of the night by 28 weeks. Carrying triplets is even harder, the majority of our triplet mommas have wound up on bed rest at some point past the 24 weeks mark. I can't make the decision for you, but this may not be the best time for you to "shine" in a new position, KWIM? GL and KUP :-)
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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 6:30pm
I wish you the best as you make this difficult decision, I think the most prudent thing at this time would be to stay where you are. Taking a new job at a time filled with so much uncertainty may very well prove to be even worse than the job conditions you are leaving. Even with a friend as a supervisor it could be difficult, my husband is in a management position and has had to let go people over the years- including friends and it would be unfair to expect any less of your friend as they have a responsibility to their position as well.
I have sadly found, even carrying twins is no walk in the park and as PP mentioned, triplets are much harder. I was doing pretty well though unable to do housework, and I can't imagine having worked recently, and then at just over 33 weeks I've been hospitalized for the remainder of my pregnancy.
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Tue, 07-20-2010 - 4:37pm

I know it's not fun to stay in a position you don't like, but I would be hesitant on taking on a new position.

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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 6:16pm

I just wanted to add my 2 cents...I'm pregnant with twins and while I'm only 11 weeks, I've been on bed rest for 5 of them already, and my doctor says he thinks by 20 weeks I'll be back on bedrest (I'm smaller, and one baby has a velamentous cord insertion). He also said its hard to keep the calorie requirement while doing too much activity, you just burn it off!

Sara

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 4:34pm
Thank you all for your comments. After a lot of discussion with family and a meeting with my new bosses I have decided to go ahead with the new job. The stress level should be about the same and is basically the same type of work. I still have moments where I second guess this decision but think in the long run it will be for the best. My new employers were very understanding when I informed them of my pregnancy and worries. They brought up working part time if needed and are aware and willing to work with me should I need to go out on leave at any time during my pregnancy.
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 6:19pm

Hi. I just read this post today.