Pregnancy and....S. E. X. {{whispering}}

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Pregnancy and....S. E. X. {{whispering}}
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 1:09pm

We really should have a board for this topic alone!

I reallly need some advice here...and have no one to talk to.  My sister (who is usually my go-to for all advice) is no help. :smileysad:  Information I find online is vague at best...and offers very little help.


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Registered: 07-16-2008
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 5:26pm
What are you wondering :-)

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 2:07pm
You *may* feel a bit better in your second tri. That's when I got my groove back, well, kinda... Then will likely have issues again in the third tri just due to size.
Everything you are describing is sadly very normal of pregnancy, especially with multiples. The fatigue alone is bad, but then add in all the other symptoms and, oh boy- it's no wonder things get weird.
Experiment with new positions, everything shifts around a bit during pregnancy and things that felt good may not anymore, too sensitive or complete lack of sensitivity, all very normal due to blood flow changes. Keep communicating with your partner, he may feel like he's letting you down, so your assurance is important to him.
It doesn't last forever I promise, you'll get your groove back eventually- around the time the babies are 18 or so :smileywink: I will also warn you, things probably won't magically go back to normal immediately postpartum due to hormones, physical trauma, and you guessed it fatigue :smileyhappy:
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 5:20pm

sex?  what's that?


first trimester... forget about it.  Nausea, Fatigue and my sniffer made that impossible..  apparently when we're preggers, we are not attracted to our partner's smell..   go figure.

second trimester... I felt better... but huge and def not sexy.  I also had a cervix issue, so that was a worry.  At some point my Drs gave me the red light on sex and literally said NO.. I think it was around 20 weeks, if not before.

third trimester...  nope.. not allowed and not interested.  I was on bedrest and felt gross.

6 weeks after the birth we were given the green light :smileywink: 



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Registered: 07-16-2008
Wed, 08-15-2012 - 6:09pm
I had zero drive during my twin pregnancy. Between being sick, then being huge, it just wasn't happening. Then towards the end I was afraid to, although I wasn't told not to sex and sperm can trigger labor so I just wouldn't.

If he cares and you put it to him straight forward he'll understand. Men need to the point, tell him just what you told us but let him know you'll be willing to renegotiate as the pregnancy progresses. :-)