when did you stop worring?

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when did you stop worring?
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 1:14pm

I know worring doesn't do any good but I was wondering when you felt like you could breath easier? Was it at seeing heartbeats? Viability? birth? NEVER? LOL

With my first I guess it was at about 26 weeks when I thought ok..everything from here is gravy and he was born at 38wks. My 2nd I was much more relaxed once I saw the hb and now with the twins I feel like its my first again!


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Fri, 02-19-2010 - 1:34pm
I breathed a little easier with each milestone (28, 32, 34, and 36 weeks) but it wasn't until birth, and really discharge from the hospital that I was sure they were going to be okay. I wish I had been able to be more sure of the outcome, I had no real reason to be worried but I worried anyway. I worried every day of ODD's pregnancy, but worse. ;-)

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Sat, 02-20-2010 - 10:28pm

I try not to worry and with each milestone I have felt better about bringing these babies to term. I think the hard but true answer to your question is, you NEVER stop worrying. Even when you give birth to these kids, you will worry. I think it is more about knowing how to not let the worry overwhelm you and to just enjoy things that you might not be able to control. In the first trimester, I just focused on being thankful that I was pregnant...no matter what might happen...I was happy to just be pregnant (I had a long journey of infertility before being surprised to learn I was pregnant with twins). Just take it a day at a time and don't be upset with yourself if you occasionally feel overwhelmed or worried.


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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 12:39am

Oh I'm a chronic worrier. To the point that it's somewhat of a disability actually. So the worry never stops for me. First it was milestones...12 weeks, 20 weeks, viability, etc. Then I worry something will happen in-utero to one or both of the babies, stillbirth, premature labor etc. Then when the babies are born, my biggest ever fear will take over...SIDS. Then I will worry about every single bad thing in the world...getting hit by a car, drowning in the tub, falling down the stairs, kidnapping, dog attack, mean people, choking, getting burned, etc etc etc!!

Sheesh. I'm probably not the best person to ask about worrying...it's all I do :( Expecting twins has definitely increased the worry twofold. Hopefully you deal better than I do.



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Registered: 06-05-2008
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 11:12am
For me the worrying eased once I started feeling the babies move each day, around 18.5 wks. But, the worrying definitely has not ceased completely - it's still there! And, like the other posters are saying, I still worry each day about my toddlers even. As they say, a mom always worries about her babies, no matter how old they may be. I think that has to be true.
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Registered: 02-04-2006
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 6:34pm
I don't think I will ever stop worrying.
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 8:17pm

I can tell you that my eldest is 19 going on 45 and I still worry about him constantly...

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