28 married 1st pregnancy

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
28 married 1st pregnancy
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 2:52pm
I know I should be ecstatic about this clearly my husband and my whole family is but im not. I was not ready to give uP my carefree life yet. Before we got married I was actually wanting a child and before this whoops happened I had no mindset of even thinking about it. I keep crying bc Im like I'm not ready for this at all! My husband can't seem to understand and I keep putting on a happy front Im not in the least bit happy. Any advice?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2011
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 12:33pm
Hi there,

I wanted to send some big HUGS your way. It can be hard to wrap your mind around an unplanned pregnancy. How far along are you?

I think it is good that you are talking to your husband about your feelings. I was in the same boat as you when I was pregnant with my son. I really didn't think I was ready for a baby and I had a lot of fear. My son has changed my life, that is for sure, but he's changed it for the better. You'd be amazed at how instantly you can fall in love with your child.

I'd suggest talking to your doctor about your feelings. It may be that you are struggling with a bit of depression and he/she may have suggestions that will help.

Hang in there and update us when you can about how things are going and how you are feeling. HUGS!
Hope, Mommy to Spencer Expecting Baby #2 09/17/12