Early Signs

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Registered: 06-17-2009
Early Signs
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 8:24pm

I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right area but here's my situation:
I've been on the pill and shot non stop since I was 15, I'm going to be 23 in August. In February I switched again from the shot to the pill. The first 4 months I was right on time. My pills go from Sunday to Saturday and my period for those 4 months were from Wednesday to Saturday... really predictable. This month, being the 5th month I didn't start my period. I had a LITTLE bit of cramps for about half a day but that's it, nothing compared to what I am used to. I waited until Monday to take a pg test, and it came up negative. I have another pg test that I was planning on taking next Monday, giving it a week to actually figure out.

Now I have a couple of issues: I am a small person, only about 101 pounds and have been that weight for over a year. I have tried SOOO hard to gain some weight, because frankly my clothes didn't fit and I just didn't want to have to buy news ones (which I ultimately did about 8 months ago). Anyways, in the past week or 2 I have gained 4 pounds. My stomach looks "bloated" in a way, but everything else fits fine like my pants. Could I possibly be gaining weight that fast? What are some other peoples experiences with early pregnancy signs, like the weird ones? I haven't been queasy and I was a bit moody last week, but that's about it.

Also, with this I am so confused as what to do. My husband and I have talked about if I am pregnant. He says that he will back up whatever decision I make. On one hand I have no problem being a mother, I feel that I am emotionally, physically and mentally ready for one. I have a wonderful husband and we get along so well. That's not the problem. The problem is that I am going to school, and have about 2 1/2 years left. We aren't really financially prepared for anything like this and I would rather not be on any government assistance if I did have a baby.

So the cons: finances, school and possibly future careers. Pros: great husband and feel ready otherwise.

What would you do in my position?

Sorry so long, but thanks!

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Wed, 07-08-2009 - 12:31pm

I hate saying it, but the pill isn't 100% effective at all. I became pregnant on the pill while my boyfriend was using a condom. Go figure! On the other hand, due to the fact that I was using the pill, I was showing up negative for nearly a month. I skipped a period, went to Planned Parenthood for another test, was told that maybe I just didn't ovulate, and that if I wasn't either having a period or showing up positive by xyz date, that I needed to go to a doctor. I found out I was positive at 2 AM on that date.

So I'll tell you what they told me. Try to ignore it all. If you don't start your period by the date scheduled next month, go to a doctor. Towards the next month, you'll definitely show up positive on that day if you are. If you're negative, there may be something else that needs looking at.

Good luck!

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