Help... Totally freaked out....

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Registered: 09-26-2008
Help... Totally freaked out....
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 5:30pm

So I found out today that I am pregnant.

My DH and I have been married for 1.5 years. I had a regular doctor's appointment today with a routine pregnancy test and it came back positive... I called my husband and told him almost immediately, and he is pretty much still in shock.

We're 22 and 23 and hadn't planned on having kids for another five years at least. I've been on the same birth control for six months. Before that, I had been on a different one. I knew something wasn't right with this one, but continued to take it. Stupid decision on my part, obviously.

We've been long distance since March of 2007 and he was finally able to move to be with me in May of 2009. He's been here two months, and here we are! I guess life has different plans than we do.

My DH is absolutely terrified of being a father so young, while I am kind of okay with it because I know that we are capable of providing for a child and being good parents. We're both active duty air force, so we have health care and everything, it's just a matter of getting used to the idea. As much as we didn't want this to happen, it's here.

So how do you wrap your mind around the fact that you're going to be a mom soon? I haven't really been able to actually process it. Granted, it has only been four hours.... Any advice for me would be fantastic seeing as how I obviously know nothing about pregnancy.... Oh, and I also don't know how far along I am.

I'll probably become pretty regular around these parts...


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Lilypie - Personal picture
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 12:01am

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!!



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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 12:54am

congrats!!! and dont worry, you are 100% totally normal! i have now had 3 unplanned pregnancies.. im on my third baby here and each time i tested positive i have sat on the toilet for an hour just staring in shock.. and ive stayed that way for awhile. this time it hit me so hard that they had to put me on anti depressants last week, i just couldnt process it and then got depressed.. and i already have 2!


the PP has given you a lot of advice.. you need to schedule an appt with an OB ASAP to figure out how far along you are and to get you some vitamins.. other than that.. well.. just relax, try and wrap your brain around it (thank god you have awhile to do that!!!)

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Registered: 09-26-2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 6:17am

Thank you ladies so much!

It's a little after 6am here. I normally wake up at 6 anyway, but I woke up at 5 and laid there for a little bit just thinking. My thinking ended when I got really sick and had to go to the bathroom. :(

I had a really sharp pain last night, so it's good to know that it is normal.

I have been wondering if I was pregnant for the last week or so, since I've been so exhausted. Even cleaning house, I had to take a break and sit down for a minute, even while just folding laundry. Monday morning, I had to drag a chair upstairs so that I could sit in front of the mirror to get ready since I didn't have the energy to move otherwise. I took a 4-hour nap on Monday.

I go today to get my prenatals and my profile saying that I can't deploy.

My DH is scared still, but I know we will get through this together, just like everything else that has hit us smack in the face.

I don't think it will be easy, and I KNOW things won't always be peachy with Ryan and I, but I am trying to be okay with it.

I'm also really scared because I'm really small. I'm 5'1 and really small. My mom was like me when she was pg, with no problems. It just makes me really nervous... Ugh, that in itself is enough to want to make me run to the bathroom and hide.

My husband is TDY to New Jersey right now (We live in DE). He gets home next Tuesday, which is when we are going to really, really talk about everything and decide when we'll tell our parents and things like that.

I have to go get ready for work now. :( Thank you again. :)


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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 11:30am

just give him time to let it sink

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Registered: 09-18-2006
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:45pm

Just so you know, talking to your doctor about your size concerns may help alleviate some of your worry!



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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:00pm
yep, im only 5'2" and ive birthed two babies easily.. no tears or anything! only pushed for about 15 minutes with each baby too!!! i carried to term and everything is completely normal... dont worry about your height..... remember that roloff woman.. she is a littler person and she carried twins!
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Registered: 08-12-2009
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 6:32pm

I just found out the same news myself today - I understand the totally freaking out part..