Just Need Advice

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Registered: 02-07-2013
Just Need Advice
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 10:48am

Okay, i just need advice on my situation. i'm 19 and my amazing boyfriend is 22. We love each other very much, but there's a problem, he wants a child now and i don't think i do. i'm unsure to be honest. we weren't being very careful and i got pregnant and had a miscarriage. i didn't know i was pregnant and i felt really bad about it. okay, now ill get to the point, we had a major slip up and i wasn't regularly taking my birth controlbecause i work and tend to forget. now i think i'm pregnant, which he is hoping for. but i'm not sure how to feel. i know this will disappoint a lot of people that are close to me  i'm freaking out please help.

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Registered: 04-18-2012
Fri, 02-08-2013 - 1:34pm


I think the first piece of advice I'd give you is to take a test.  Find out one way or another if you are pregnant or not.  Secondly, have you talked to your boyfriend about why he wants a child so badly?  Have you told him that you aren't ready?  If in fact you are not pregnant, I think I'd have this talk next.  A baby is a big deal and will be in your life forever.  If you aren't ready for that responsibility, you really need to speak up and let him know.  It's hard, I know, but sometimes you have to think of yourself first.  Good luck and let us know what you find out!

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 1:38pm
Hi there, I wanted to check in with you to see how things are going. Have you taken a test? Do you know if you are pregnant or not? Please update us when you have a chance. (((HUGS)))

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