Pregnant and I need advice!

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Registered: 04-14-2012
Pregnant and I need advice!
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Sat, 04-14-2012 - 3:20am

My name is Taylor. I just found out recently that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I went to my OB-GYN after taking a pregnancy test. The thing I need advice about is well this is so unplanned. I am almost 22 years old and almost done with college. My boyfriend, Ethan is three years older than me. He is really smart and is attending graduate school. We have been together for two almost three years now. I love him so much. I am nervous to tell him that I am pregnant. I know it is his as I haven't been with anyone else. I just am really scared to tell Ethan that I am pregnant for many reasons. He is busy with graduate school and even though we are together I don't want him to feel like he has to give up graduate school for any reason. I am scared that he will want to marry me because I am pregnant. I want to marry him but I want him to marry me because he wants to not just because I am pregnant. I am also scared to tell him because I don't know what he will say. I mean we have talked about getting married but wanted to wait to even get engaged awhile. I am scared because I know a baby will change everything.

I haven't really told anyone that I am pregnant. I told my younger sister, Sutton, because her and I are very close. I haven't told my parents yet and I don't know how to tell them either. I just don't know what to do. This is just so unexpected and I am nervous and scared. I want to have this baby but I just don't know how to tell people. I also don't know how to tell Ethan because I love him and I am afraid he will leave. Ethan is a good guy so I guess I shouldn't be afraid of that but I had a friend whose boyfriend left her when she got pregnant so it worries me. I know Ethan isn't like my friend's boyfriend but she didn't think her boyfriend would leave. I am just nervous and would appreciate any advice on how to tell Ethan, my parents, or on what to do.

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Registered: 03-24-2011
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 1:20pm
Hi Taylor,

I can certainly understand your apprehension about telling your boyfriend about your pregnancy. It sounds like the two of you have been together a long while and I'm guessing that he won't just up and leave you. I know baby and marriage often go together, but just because baby is on the way, doesn't mean you have to make the decision to get married immediately. Sure it changes your plans, but it doesn't mean you have rush into a wedding and marriage.

I'd suggest sitting down and telling your boyfriend your intentions for the pregnancy. Be open and upfront about things and just take it from there. Chances are that what you are imagining his reaction to be is far worse than the reality. Let us know how things go!
June, loving mommy to Nicholas (8)