Totally unplanned - so please be kind

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Registered: 01-14-2007
Totally unplanned - so please be kind
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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 5:16am

Ok, it's been 4 days now since the Dr. said I was @ 6 weeks. We always said we were waiting for the "right time".


I'm 39, 102/lbs and I drink, a lot. 6 to 8 beers a day and smoke 1 pk+.


Dr said to just quit and everything would be ok. Is that realistic? And isn't cold turkey going to kill all three of us?


I've only had 2 beers since and maybe 10 smokes...but I'm going crazy!


Any help would be great!

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 1:04pm
It sounds as though you are going through withdraw. It's not a simple as just giving drinking up all at once and in fact may be dangerous. However drinking and smoking during pregnancy is also dangerous. There is no such thing as a "safe amount" of alcohol or cigarettes. You basically have two choices:



1.) Go to a detox facility and rehab. There are some facilities that design there rehab around pregnant women.



2.)Terminate the pregnancy.



In any case, it sounds as though you need some help. More than we can offer you here on a message board.

~Kristen~
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Registered: 04-19-2006
Tue, 08-25-2009 - 4:57pm
drinking and smoking carry a higher risk to the fetus than quitting. If you really need help talk to your doctor and see if he can refer you to someone who specializes in addiction.
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-26-2009 - 1:31pm

i was a smoker before i got pregnant with all of my kids... each one. but i dont drink.. but i can help with the smoking!!!!


do not listen to the first responder. i know of plenty of women who drank and smoked and partied and got pregnant.. its not detox and rehab or abortions....


with the smoking.. dont go cold turkey. you still need to quit but if it has to more slowly.. let it be. the baby will be fine as long as you quit. but if take you 3 more weeks to get to done.. it does. no shame you are trying your best. its a hard habit to break i never quit cold turkey.. i gave myself 2 months to quit and it worked ad my kids are perfect and so is my lil bean in my belly... i also smoked a pack a day...


as for the drinking try replacing it with something else.. you do need to drink more water but water alone gets so boring. i like fuze drinks and the vitamin waters. they have a nice flavor and are good for you.maby put some club soda in it...

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-26-2009 - 1:40pm

also, a few things to remember.. the first week is the hardest. and it takes 21 days to break habit.. meaning if you never smoke or drink again it will be 21 days for the habit to be broken. (but it does get easier)

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:29pm
Withdraw from the amount of alcohol she is drinking on a daily basis CAN be life threatening. People die from going cold turkey. It can cause DT's and life threatening seizures. You cannot just simply replace alcohol with fizzy or flavored drinks and be safe... If it were that simple, detox facilities, rehab and AA wouldn't exist.



I can only suggest that mhprep, you need to get some professional help.

~Kristen~
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 2:39am

thats also why i told her she doesnt have to go cold turkey most Drs. do say that a glass of red wine even once a day or once every few days its fine in pregnancy.

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 9:12pm
Honestly I am not all that concerned by her smoking as much as I am by her drinking. I'm not trying to be negative or unkind. Alcohol withdraw is serious. As a health-care professional, I have seen the seriousness of it. It would be a great disservice to her, if I didn't encourage her to seek professional help. I had a friend nearly die from alcohol withdraw (He only drank the equivalent of 2 cocktails/day). 6-8 beers/day a exorbitant amount of alcohol, it's not just a few beers here and there. She asked for advice, and I am giving it. She can take it or leave it.

~Kristen~
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Full-time Mom...

~Kristen~

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Tue, 09-08-2009 - 10:34am

I'm gonna have to agree WITH Kirsten! At 102lbs that's a LOT PER DAY! (my hubby is a 400 lb brute & it's still a lot for him) Cold turkey is not a great idea. (If morning sickness is helping, great) Her doc should have REFERRED her to someone local not just say "ditch it"!

Like MOST of the posters I agree the ALCOHOL is the WORST problem. The smoking is MUCH easier to fix. This young gal is literally drinking her ENTIRE daily quota of Fluids as alcohol!!!!! Heck I'm only trying to kick a caffeine habit & believe me it's HARD, I can only IMAGINE what this is like!!!!!

And NO they will NOT take your child from you or ANYTHING else hun. I realize that's a HUGE fear but you've done nothing WRONG to a child, just made bad choices for YOURSELF! The sooner you get the help you need the better it will be for you & this pregnancy! Please get yourself to a REAL doctor, not the QUACK in your first post! PLEASE!

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Wed, 11-04-2009 - 6:10pm
i know this posts a little late but i just want to say thanks to luvmy2kida at the moment im on holidays for my 21st birthday and i have done nothing but drink and smoke the days and nights away until i found out the throwing up and not being able to eat wasnt the hang overs darn morning sickness i have smoked a little bit but havent had a drink since it has always been in the back of my mind because i did drink stupid amounts the past few weeks i do normally have a drink 3/4 times a week but my boy friend has been so supportive and whenever i get bored he takes me for a drive to the beach or something like that which is really helping =] still havent decided if i want to go threw with the pregnancy but if i do i want to start off rite
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 10:00pm

no problem. i know what your going through and i know how rough it is... but im so happy for you to have such a supportive partner!! its so awesome that he is fine doing that with you to help you out and it will probably turn into some really great memories or new traditions...

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