Unplanned pregnancy - - is the baby my husband's or my lovers???? HELP!

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Unplanned pregnancy - - is the baby my husband's or my lovers???? HELP!
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 6:49pm

So I'm sure you can tell by the title of my post that I find myself in QUITE a conundrum, here. I need some thoughts and advice, and I really did not know where to turn.

Here's the situation:

I have been having an long-distance love affair with a coworker of mine who lives 1,000 miles away. He and I have seen eachother on three occasions on 'business trips', and have slept together numerous times, without protection. (I have no idea what I was thinking. :-(

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Registered: 06-29-2011

Wow, that is quite a dilemma!

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Registered: 03-24-2011
Oh boy. I can certainly understand why you are feeling stressed out by the situation. I'm glad that you've made an appointment with your OBGYN. Have you told your husband that you are pregnant (or your lover)? Does your husband know that you were having an affair?

Based on the timing of events, it sounds like it is likely your DH's child. However, I don't know that you'll be certain about anything until after the baby is born and you've had a paternity test done. I don't know how you'd go about do that unless one of the men in your life knows what is going on. :(

Let us know what you find out at the doctor and how things are going with you emotionally. Hang in there!
June, loving mommy to Nicholas (8)
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Registered: 03-28-2010

Well, I certainly hope it's your husbands.....poor guy!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend