did I miss something or are 8 year olds no longer expected to be able to have fun even in the summer

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did I miss something or are 8 year olds no longer expected to be able to have fun even in the summer
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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:41pm

So more I think of this conversation last week with school more I get a bit peeved...to say the least.

So Liam is behind in reading, we have now had him tested twice and he tests average but it just doesn't translate into class. Now we have theories most around the ADHD, when they

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Adults are supposed to take vaction to help prevent burn-out, so why would we want to force kids to do school work year-round?




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He needs the reading help so that he is not futher behind come next year?

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:smileyhappy: In defense of all Moms who work long hours (whether in the home or out) at the end of the day, fried brain is common.




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I don't understand a literate adult brain that cannot handle reading or listening to a children's book. Where is the 2nd parent in all of this?

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Climbing a pole most nights. Not everyone had 9 to 5 jobs. Ever heard the saying don't judge someone until u walk in their footsteps. U have no clue what my day entails or what my brain feels like at end of it and I never said we were unwilling or unable to read a kids book. My point was my Liam's day is almost as long as I mine. I get how he could be too fried to read after his 45 min of homework. When he gets home at 6 goes to bed at 8:30. Sometimes homework ends shortly before bed and he is in a structured after school program.
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Does your school's afterschool program include homework help?

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They have homework help u have to sign up and this session we only got him in 1 homework help. The other issue is the IEP no one there will scribe for him and he doesn't have access to the computer in it so he is only doing math which is his easy subject anyway so we are still left the homework struggle at night. Like u our state has crazy expectations for kids but as we continue to fall in the top 10 nationwide it's not changing anytime soon. What worries me is these kids as they get older eventually the work load and stress has got to reach a breaking point. Saw it in kids I knew in high school and most of that was self imposed and parent imposed now add school pressuring them and this could all backfire done the line.
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{{{{hugs}}}} - your situation sounds stressful in so many ways: financial, emotional, physical... I think it really IS hard for other parents and teachers to understand when their life is very different. I was a single parent for several years when the girls were younger (probably similar to you with your dh working evenings) and it was SO hard. Yeah, reading 20 minutes a night seems easy, and frankly, right now it is easy, but it wasn't then. Being home all day affords us the luxury of giving our kids all the help they need in school.

That said, I do think that summer school/extra work might be in order. However, I'd really try to make it less about "drill drill drill" and more about fun. When my brain was toast, we loved books on tape (um, CD... showing my age). The girls would read along with the books, or we'd just listen in the dark. I get it doesn't help spelling or looking at words, but it will help his vocab and pronounciation. We'd also listen in car rides. We try to do lots of "little" enrichments. For example, my ds10 and ds11 will often do a "brain pop" video on my iPod, or a vocab word, or an SAT question of the day (they actually aren't all that hard for the most part). I bring armloads of books from the library - ds11 will read anything in sight, but ds10 is pickier. We use a lot of magazines - Sports illustrated for kids, Muse, Odyssey...we get train magazines at the library (too expensive to subscribe) and he reads them during breakfast. Even "Calvin and Hobbes" has a really great vocab.

I think the summer camp is important - my boys are both very academically-minded, but so far, the one camp we're doing is church camp - hiking, canoeing, sleeping in cabins. To me, that fun experience is worth more than chess camp, or math camp. I would absolutely do the fun summer camp near your parents, because it sounds like it will be good for him overall, which is the most important thing (if he's too stressed, he won't learn, no matter how much drilling you do). BUT, you do need to try to fit in little things every day and during the summer. My boys aren't doing worksheets galore, but they are doing at least 20-30 minutes a day of enrichment in the summer. That might be reading, it might be a science experiment, it might be a museum visit, or it might be a few math problems. If they have time for video games, they have time for learning. If your son spends 20 minutes a day on TV or video games, he probably can find another 20 to learn a little.

I would also continue to talk to the school regarding homework, if that is what is really crunching his day. Try to figure out what he really needs - if some of the homework is busy work, try to get it reduced, or at least replaced by something useful.

Believe me, I have BTDT with a crazy schedule, working, getting home late. And it seems like everyone things you *could* be doing a better job. When dh and I were first dating (I was a divorced mom with two young girls), he once told me that he could help me become organized... I just needed a plan. (yes, I continued dating him, although he now laughs and wonders how I did). Well, after a few "dates" that ended up with me checking homework at midnight and him ironing one of the girls' pleated uniform skirts, he reconsidered. ;)

Hang in there.

Theresa

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Was not judging- trying to find solutions.

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Heidi - it is hard after a long day.

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