here we go again more school anxiety

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here we go again more school anxiety
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Thu, 01-19-2012 - 12:28pm

A bit annoyed at teacher, AGAIN. So Liam has been complaining of belly aches on and off last week. There has been a stomach bug thing and think he was actually sick on Friday, but then the other night he started again. He is an anxious kid so last night I probed a bit. With everything that had been going on before break worried he is still not speaking up. First I got a no then I got a well am worried about my grades which he elaborated worried about being left back. Guess teacher felt the need to tell the class she needs to let principal know at end of quarter who she feels needs to stay back and there are a few on her list.

Really?!?!? Or is it just me. Why on earth say something??? Its school policy following close of second quarter grades teachers must notify admins and parents of students AT RISK for retention. A meeting is held, interventions are discussed etc., and no decision is made until after 3rd quarter. It’s in the handbook as a parent I read it I understand it, he is 8 yes he needs to take school seriously but to the point you are worrying him. Last quarter she said x# of kids had As x# had Bs and so on and some failed. My kids grade at this point whether you say speficially of speak in general terms is NO ONE business but hers, mine, his and the admins at the school and any other staff that work with him not the entire class. If someone else kid is failing it’s not MY business or my kids. He fretted over was he one of them and now she has him worried he will repeat. Not that it doesn’t worry me, he definitely isn’t an A student but his IEP adds a different level, although I still feel she is not completely following this is all stuff we would address in a meeting and nothing is final in January what happens in June, just kind of annoyed she would even address the class as a whole on this.

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 5:28pm
Urg. She can threaten all she wants, but if he is failing because of his disability it is her fault for not following the IEP. She is the adult in this situation, with the power. Yes, the child SHOULD be coming forward when they need the help, but golly, what kid wants to be different. It is up to her to do what she is supposed to do, not wait for an 8 year old to come forward and ask. She may be looking at him in a disapproving way when he asks so that he doesn't want to ask. It does not relieve her of her duty.

And, no, not a crutch - but it is what the law says, regardless of if you or the teacher wants him held back, it isn't going to happen. But she does need to do her job, and if she isn't, the team should be on her about it.
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Registered: 01-07-2004
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 2:12pm

hello!! ita with you. it is nobodys business if the whole class is failing. maybe the teacher was having a day...or a moment...or maybe she wanted to scare everyone into doing better...but she shouldnt have said anything. im a lot like liam-i have anxiety issues...and i would have freaked if the teacher would have said that when i was in school. i would have felt just like liam. im sure hes not one of them...but still. why would the teacher do that?? that was so not cool.
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Thu, 02-02-2012 - 8:04pm
Last night liam was sick. We got home from afterschool at 6pm he had a headache asked to lie down. My youngest was sick too so needless to say we never got to homework. Kid went to bed right after dinner. Told him tell teacher u were sick will bring tomorrow. Well he got lecture about excuses and stories and homework comes first. Ok not like kid was playing from 2 to 6 he was in an afterschool. They can't do the homework with him lke I do. With the iep he either does on computer or I write it. He is only in homework help once a week because they can't spare the staff to give him that 1 on 1 and they don't access to computers and she knows he goes to after school. Livid right now counting down days to the end of this year.
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Fri, 02-03-2012 - 8:37am

I'd give the teacher a piece of my mind.




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Thu, 02-09-2012 - 9:30pm
Sounds like you need to send in a signed note next time, with an explanation that if she can't handle this, he will just stay home the next day and you will send an excuse.

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