Homework books - Why can't she remember?

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Homework books - Why can't she remember?
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 5:53am

Hi,

My 8 yr old 3rd grade daughter often forgets her books that she needs for homework, especially when there she has to study for a quiz or test.

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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 9:48am

Unfortunately her brain just isn't wired for remembering everything at this point (many adults have this problem too).




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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 12:44pm

We have similar issues, but part of Ds issues is writing. He has a writing issue that is WELL documented. Well this year we no longer get pre set homework test schedule or anything writing by teacher. Was able to get on line for awhile but school upgraded the computer system and only 3 teacher pages are showing (have really issues with the tech lady at the school. Im really if this is your proffession and ALL the other schools in the town seem to able to provide updated school news and teacher pages why can't you?!?!) Anyway this is a MAJOR issue for us. He scribbles what he can down. We get home at 6, he doesn't always remember what he was to do and I can't read it. I have asked before if I can get a clear idea of things like when test are and so on and i get the same run around. It all depends on when we finish a chapter. So she doesn't tell him to study so he won't and if I have no clue he was even given spelling words (they don't do them everyweek) how can I follow up and further more she doesn't hand out a sheet of words like in years past he is expected to write them down...did I mention a well documented writing issue?!?!? Needless to say last week Thursday I find out at 8pm he has a spelling test next day. I was livid and I could barely read what the words were. After 20 min that consisted of him reading the words saying he knows them me quizing him him stumbling me yelling. DH sent him to bed and told him HE can explain to teacher why he doesn't know them. Needless to say he got a 25. Now I am meeting with her next week over something else but OT will be there so I want back up in asking for PRINTED copies of homework and spelling words!!!

Anyway that turned in my own ramble sorry. I do think we expect way too much of kids too soon these day but if your state is like mine its NOT letting up. Course if teacher isn't communitcating it is hard. If you are friendly with other parents in the class I have found that a useful reference of important info he is not communicting. The other thing I have tried to do when I do know there was a spelling list I make a copy of the list and I initiate going over it whether or not he knows or I do that a test is coming I tell him at some point he needs to know so more you study more you know. It just stink she gets in a schedule I can follow then something comes up and its weeks before we are back on an understandable scheudle

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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 12:54pm

That recomendation definately varies by state and even town. Our school committee has set min not a max homework time of 45 min per day for 3-4 graders, which means at least 45min of homeword a night

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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 1:15pm

Homework recommendations:

But how much homework is too much?

One standard that many school districts are turning to is the "10-minute rule" created by Duke University psychology professor Harris Cooper. The rule, endorsed by the National PTA and the National Education Association, says kids should get 10 minutes of homework a night per grade. A first grader would have 10 minutes of homework each night; a fifth grader 50 minutes.

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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 7:30pm
Wow, never thought about her being overwhelmed. Great idea about the organizer. I will have to ck with her teacher because she wants the homework written in a steno pad. Btw, we did 2.5 hrs tonight. She had to recite from memory 11 states and capitals on Wednesday and another 10 tomorrow. Also had to study for a health quiz by reading about 8 pgs, memorize a bible memory verse that she will be tested on next wk, study spelling words and use nine language words in a sentence. I am so tired.
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 7:40pm
Wow, the teacher needs to be held accountable for her lack of attention to this matter. We also had the problem of her not writing her homework down correctly but I am glad to say she has overcome that. Fight for your son. I have a mentally challenged older daughter that I've had to fight for all her life.

Oh and get this. Her teacher verbally gave them a page of instructions for a project Nd I didn't find out until 2 days before it was due. I can't believe she wouldn't give it to them in written form. They are still small and learning. So I completely understand the last minute thing.
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 7:44pm
2.5 hours? When does she get time to be a kid and do hobbies and read stuff she is interested in? Ok, I didn't have home work until 4th grade. And I did just fine. But really, kids need a chance to play, move, and to some extent, chill out after school.

Why the memorization of stuff (state capitols) that is SO easy to look up these days? Seems like busy work....the other stuff seems more appropriate, but still, what are they doing in the school that she has so much to take home?
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 8:48am

If you're tired, I can only imagine how your daughter feels!




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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 3:27pm

She gets very little time during the week to be a kid, except for about 1 hr a day in afterschool care.

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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 9:47am

I think she needs a day planner.

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