Question Of The Day: Parent Teacher Conferences @ This Age?

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Question Of The Day: Parent Teacher Conferences @ This Age?
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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 3:10pm

Does your child's school hold yearly parent teacher conferences for children in the 4th 5th and 6th grade or are conferences only done on an as-needed basis?

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We do the home schooling through a public school ALE. Yes, we do have conferences (they call them face to face meetings) but the purpose is the opposite - I have to inform the teacher that we are actually sticking to plan, and if not, why not. (Say, stuck on multiplication or such.) I have to do this 3 times a year. This helps to account wear tax payer money is going and getting used.

Seems to me, that the same thing should be required, in reverse for regular public school kids. Teachers explaining where they are, what problems, what victories. Maybe done via a group internet thing or at the school, but why not? Part of what I HATED with regular school was not knowing what my kids were learning so that I could relate things at home to it, to expand their knowledge. This would help some. (Especially with those tired kids at the end of the day who have one word answers about everything that happened at school!)
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Registered: 08-31-2009

Since our school goes to 5th grade, we're still doing parent/teacher conferences.




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Yes, I speak to myself on a regular basis:)

DS's outsourced teachers and coaches keep me in the loop of strengths and

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Registered: 03-12-2004
Here, all grade school kids- kindy thru 5th have two parent/teacher conferences a year. In fact, Donovan's is tonight (he's my 4th grader).

I HATE, HATE, HATE the way they do them in middle school. I know there has to be a better way but it is what it is. You go to the cafeteria (gym, library, etc) and stand in line for 3 minutes with each teacher. It's horrible. They do them on two nights- this year was tues and thurs and I had to go to both nights for and hour and a half each night just to talk to her main teachers and I finally recruited dh to go talk to the ancillary ones because I knew I'd never make it to talk to them.

What I usually do is email all her teachers. That way they can email me with any questions or problems. Honestly it seems to work better than trying to get all the info I need in three minutes. But I do like to meet them face to face. It lets them know that I care about her grades and am invested in her schooling.
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Registered: 05-02-2004
I would hate that too. Seems kind of worthless other than feeling judged that you didn't show up even though it sounds like not showing up would give the same effect.

When my daughter was in regular school I really hated the "game" that they played. In the fall, there was always some area that needed improving that the kid was so far behind in and needed extra tutoring/help, etc. Despite the fact that in the spring conference the word was always how much the child improved and was now above grade level. I got this and other parents did too, and they did not let their kids slack over the summer. After catching on, it really rang hollow and made you wonder exactly what you did need to focus on and what the kids didn't have to do so that they could have a little free time to play instead of doing extra drills.
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Registered: 01-05-2005

You go to the cafeteria (gym, library, etc) and stand in line for 3 minutes with each teacher.

Okay, this takes the cake for the WORST possible way I can imagine doing this. Oh my goodness - I don't know where to start...lack of privacy? No time? Awkwardness? YIKES!!

Here, in middle school there are conferences twice a year with all the core teachers -they are on teams, so you meet with all the main team teachers (math, science, social studies, language arts) for 20 minutes. You can request a meeting with the encore, but you usually don't. In HS, you actually meet with every single teacher separately for - hmmmm... I think 20 minutes also, but it may be shorter. I remember it took the entire day when both girls were in HS since they each had 6 or 7 core teachers.

For my 4th grader, it's 20 minute blocks. I am meeting with his homeroom teacher, his math teacher, and gifted. I may also request a short conference with his language arts teacher.

Theresa

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My girls attend a k-8 public school.

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I'm wondering how many kids are in your school? There is no way they could do that here, they'd be in meetings the entire school year to fit it all in. Our school has 724 students in grades 6,7 & 8. I'm thinking that each teacher probably has at least 5 classes per day at 25 or more kids per class. So they'd have to meet with at least 125 parents at 20 minutes per kid that would be 2500 minutes. (math was never my strong point so let me know if I'm wrong). But still I know they will never do that. I wish they could come up with something better though. What they have now is totally frustrating.
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I'm wondering how many kids are in your school? There is no way they could do that here, they'd be in meetings the entire school year to fit it all in. Our school has 724 students in grades 6,7 & 8.