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|Fri, 05-31-2013 - 2:30pm|
Hi everyone. I am new to the board so I hope this discussion has not already taken place elsewhere. My son is 6 as of April this year. He was premature and has consistently been approximately 6 months behind in reaching milestones. He is a very smart, caring child but I had concerns early on about him starting kindergarten. He attended preschool since age 3 so he was not new to the idea of being in a classroom setting. He passed his kindergarten screening and no concerns were brought up at that time. His teacher was, unfortunately, an older woman who was obviously awaiting retirement and had little patience with him from the beginning. He is admittedly a bit immature for his age and adjusted poorly in the start of the year. He could not sit still and he was in trouble almost daily. His academics were below average but I considered some of the assessments inaccurate because he answered questions wrong for his teachers that he answered correctly every time at home. At the end of second quarter his teacher expressed concerns that he "needed help" with nearly all classroom assignments and that he was behind the other students. A couple of months later she did retire and his new teacher is in her early 20's and this is her first teaching job. My son was placed on a low dose of ADD medication and is doing very well behavior wise now. He is catching up slowly and shows much more interest in learning. His new teacher stated that he would benefit from another year of kindergarten to mature and catch up. He is passing his subjects (for what it's worth) with 2's and 3's out of 4's, but still has trouble understanding what he is supposed to be doing on worksheets, etc. At first I agreed that maybe another year in kindergarten was a good idea and that it was good to go ahead and do it now rather than waiting until later. Now, however, I have read multiple studies and advice columns that stress that retaining students, even in kindergarten can be almost pointless in the long run.
Have any of you parents been in the same situation? Have you retained your child or promoted them when retaining was advised? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel so helpless.
Thank you in advance,