WWYD - Band

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Registered: 03-11-2008
WWYD - Band
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Mon, 11-14-2011 - 5:02pm

Hi! My DS is 11 and in 6th grade. Last year, in 5th grade he started playing the trumpet in band. He seemed to like it and practiced occasionaly. Now in 6th grade he has continued with band except he doesn't seem to be doing too much with it. He never practices it. I asked him last night to take out his trumpet and play a song for us. He found a million excuses not to. At this point I am thinking he cannot play it. I am paying $30 a month for this trumpet. WWYD at this point, let him finish the year or return the trumpet? We are on a very tight budget right now. As a child I quit alot of activities so I do not want to encourage that either. Thanks for any advice you have to offer.

Rebecca-29 DH -31 DS -12 DD-2

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 8:01am
Have you asked him if he wants to do it anymore? I would ask him and if he is not interested then I say return it. If he isn't giving it his all then like you said that is 30 bucks you could use elsewhere.

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 9:08am

Thanks for your reply! He says he wants to continue with it. I told him that he must practice 3 times a week. I wonder if he wants to stick with it to get out of class for practice one day a week. I am unsure why he wants to continue with it. I figure if he is falling behind that he would be relived to stop.

Rebecca-29 DH -31 DS -12 DD-2

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 3:01pm

I have a ds11 in 6th who is in orchestra, but he is required to practice by his teacher (required in the sense that it affects his grade). I think you need to set a schedule for him and say, "okay, MWF from 4:00-4:30, you need to practice." It IS homework, imo. I wouldn't let my son stop practicing anymore than I'd let him skip his math homework. On top of it, we are required to sign up for all three years of middle school classes in 5th grade (yeah, I hate it!) so we had to make sure he really wanted to play. Our instrument is the upright bass, and even though he loves it, I cringe when I think that we *could* be saving that for his college fund (or heck, some months for new shoes or the electric bill!).

What will the school do if he quits band? Does he just move to a study hall? What does his teacher think? Either way-keep or return- I'd definitely set some standards IF he wants to continue in 7th grade. If he can't commit to practicing more than he is now, I'd definitely say no.

Theresa