Anyone else's child hate kindergarten?

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Registered: 09-23-2004
Anyone else's child hate kindergarten?
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Fri, 09-27-2013 - 8:24pm

Following years of play based preschool which she loved, my daughter is about a month into kindergarten, and when I can get her to give me any kind of feedback (which is rare), she tells me she HATES kindergarten.  I suspect there's an unparalleled amount of sitting and paying attention.  She doesn't often point to anything specific (other than saying she hates P.E. and the taciturn coach).  Since she's so reluctant to talk, I use a thumb system to ask how her day was -- thumb's up, middle, or down.  She's given me a thumb's down every time.

According to other parents of kids in her class, the other kids are having a GREAT time, the time of their lives.

I'm at a loss.  Will this get any better?  Is this just the transition period?

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Sat, 09-28-2013 - 7:55am

My oldest was like that and to be honest 5th grade is the first time he has said he actually likes school but we think its because he has a tiny crush on his teacher. In 1st and 2nd grade he would tell teachers he likes the teacher he likes his classmates but hates school. Now in his case we were also dealing with some learning issues and developmental delays so its harder then for him then other classmates so he would struggle. Recently discovered he hated music and art and another reason he is likely school more is they no longer have those subjects and now do spanish and tech ed which he likes.

My youngest also started kindergarten this year and we went into it with no preschool. He was an in home day care setting. So far so good but first week the paperwork was BORING and gym is HARD. I do worry if eventually the lack of preschool would pose an issue but we went into this year with every expectation of repeating kindergarten. My goals for him this year are different then my oldest and partly because I have learned alot dealing with my oldest. Kids adjust at their own pace. My oldest teacher gave it a few months before addressing issues she was seeing.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-30-2013 - 4:46pm
My middle daughter had a similar experience last year. It took her about 2 months into the year to get used to the differences, no naps or quiet time, most of the time they are sitting down, paying attention, walking in a line to this class or lunch and not talking or touching things. I am sure things will be better as she gets more used to the "new" rules, teacher and kids. You can always email the teacher and just mention that she seems to be having a hard time adjusting and ask for any insight from the teacher.
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Registered: 09-23-2004
Thu, 10-03-2013 - 7:32pm

Thank you both so much for the responses!  You're right -- things just need to transition in their own time, and eventually everything will settle down.  I really appreciate it!