If you plan to see the movie “Bully,” don’t make the same mistake I did.
I still haven't decided whether I'll take ds11 (12 in a week) to see it. I'm not planning on taking ds10. Although we haven't experienced bullying, both boys have seen it to a certain extent. I think that every child has, if you expand your definition a bit. In the grocery store, I see demeaning parents... when I worked, I occasionally encountered bullying bosses. On the playground, we've seen kids make really derogatory remarks.
I disagree that younger school-aged kids are too young.
I'm a former school bus driver. I drove for 7 yrs for a Head start/ECEAP program. And I saw it going on as early as age 4/5. As I only had 9 to 22 kids on the bus, I was able to get a handle on it faster. My kiddo's were signed on & off the bus, and I had a good repro with the parent's/guardians of the kids. I found it was the girls who were my biggest bullies. I would move them from whoever they were picking on & as soon as I got to their stop I would have a conversation with the adults. It usually stopped the problem quickly.
My kids (7 and under) are really too young to see this, but we do talk about bullying at an age-appropriate level.
I was really happy to see that they decided to release the movie unrated, rather than being rated R. I hope that many, many children will now see it.
Parents, schools, administrators, and the public needs to stop viewing bullying as "boys will be boys", "they're just kids", "just toughen up", and all the excuses that adults (and other kids) make in response to bullying.
I must admit I have been living under a rock or something but I had no clue about this movie until my parents mentioned it at breakfast Saturday. Sad when your 67 year old parents are more in the loop but my mom was planning on taking Liam and my 11 year old neice. She just wanted to make sure I was ok with rating and language but thinking I may tag along too. Liam hasn't been bullied but he has been picked on in school and out over the cleft. From a far you would never know but up close his nose is off he has a scar and his speech while now almost normal hasn't always been and kids do pick up on it. There have been other issues in school with problem kids. Now we have a zero tolerance for bullying at school but the home enviroment often differs greatly from school and even the adminstrators realize its not going to solve any problems if you can't get all parents on same page.
This is so far from our reality.