feeling guilty about school choice
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|Fri, 05-17-2013 - 7:10am|
My youngest misses our town kindergarten cut off by 17 days. We check out a few options for next year. Preschools were over priced and he wasn't impressed. We check out a catholic school that will let him do kindergarten and he LOVED it and its less then the preschools so we signed him up all along planning he'd repeat kindergarten at older DS school the next year. Honestly maturity wise I think more then acedemics but I know how older DS school works so I'm not worried if he has the acedemics but being on the young side needs another year to mature because they do work with kids on skill level not class as whole in most things. When we went to the open house to check out the school we had an easy explaination why we are only enrolling 1 of 2 kids. Older DS is on an IEP and they don't have those services. I know he is in the right school for him. Well this is where the guilt starts and maybe its not guilt.
Turns out a half older DS baseball team goes there. Some of these kids and parents we have known in passing for 5 years. I know some choose the school because they couldn't get into the local charter school and hated the public school. I have LOVED older DS school and normally defend public school so here I am doing catholic school (should add I'm Jewish to boot). Now I was very impressed with this school and if it wasn't financially and logistically a challenge I wouldn't be in it for just kindergarten. Like I said ODS is in right school for him, but as a younger sibling I wonder if being out of big brother shadow is a good thing. I was pre judged because of my sister and I wonder if they would assume his brother has delays he might and be quicker to jump. I know I make this jump some days. I paniced after his testing they mentioned how he held a pencil and I flashed back to ODS motor skills and worried did we make wrong choice what if he needs similar intervention. DH usually brings me back to reality. YDS has never been in a formal school so how would he know how to hold it right.
So I was talking to my mom last night and she was like its no one's business why I pull him the next year and I know she is right but they have been so welcoming and I flash back to being a newcomer at ODS school and we didn't go through the towns preschool or have older siblings in the school so no one talked to us at open houses before school started and even after school started it was cliquey and maybe this school is the same its just while I don't have the older sibling in the school they know the older sibling. Time will tell I guess and since I am already panicing over the cost let alone how to get 2 kids to 2 different school via the bus I know my mom is right and know most of these mom's would have pulled their kid for the charter school and under that every kid is different and while ODS IEP makes catholic school not a good mix it makes charter school just as bad so maybe I put younger DS on there too.