QOTW~Rewards for Good Grades?

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QOTW~Rewards for Good Grades?
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Sun, 02-20-2011 - 11:19am

Do you give your child rewards for good grades like a treat out for dinner or money?

Also what grade warrants a reward if you give them?

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Tue, 02-22-2011 - 12:06am

Definitley not.

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Mon, 02-21-2011 - 3:23pm
When J first started school we did celebrate with dinner at his favorite place.

We don't do anything now. We eat out so much that it isn't that much of a treat. *blush*



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Sun, 02-20-2011 - 6:24pm

We do not pay for good grades, we encourage him to do his best.

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Sun, 02-20-2011 - 3:29pm

Do you give your child rewards for good grades like a treat out for dinner or money?

No way...nor would I give them a reward for being polite, or for brushing their teeth... some things are just "expected" and getting the best grades of which you are capable is one. In general, my kids are capable of As and I expect them. But at the same time, if I know they're trying really hard and they get a B, I'm just as happy. I really don't pay too much attention to grades because I hope that each of my kids is invested for themselves in doing well.

I feel the same way about chores - my kids don't get paid to help. That's something else that's just expected. My theory on both of these is, what if one day they decided they don't care about the reward? When I hear parents say things like, "my child just won't do her homework," I can't really understand. Reading/studying/doing homework is something we've always done and there just isn't a lot of discussion on it.

I'm not saying my kids are perfect - not at all - but our house is not a democracy. My kids are forced to read (at least half an hour a day), forced to study unless they've proven they don't need to, and forced to do some educational activities aside from school if school isn't giving them any.

Theresa