Homework Strike :(

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Homework Strike :(
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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 1:12pm

M. is often difficult to get moving on his homework, but last night was an epic fail.

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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 10:20am

I think that it depends on why he isn't doing it. Does he just sit at his desk/table and stare at the work? Is he too distracted? Does he find the work boring? It sounds like a fair bit of homework for his age, regardless. How much time are they supposed to spend? At our school, kids do no more than 10 minutes per grade, so a first grader would do ten minutes. Most of the teachers say that once they spend that time, or close to it (maybe 10-20 minutes) they can be done. Would it work for him if you said, "Okay, you need to give it 20 minutes of really good effort and then you can stop?"

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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 3:19pm
This is the boy that has issues with writing, right? This is way too much work. I know he is in a gifted program but gifted programming should not mean "More work than peers" it should mean "advanced work" Just because a kid is smarter than average, does not mean that they can write better than average.

Honestly, I did not have homework until 4th grade. I was in average schooling, but this just sounds too much.

Have you read any books on schooling boys? If not, I suggest that you see what your library has and start reading. Boys DO learn differently than girls, and unfortunately our schools have shifted to methods that are great for girls, but have left the boys behind. Ask the teacher what she/he is doing to school specifically for boys. Boys need more hands on, less verbal/written than girls, just as one example. A good book to start with is called "The Trouble with Boys."

I am reading them because I am my sons' teacher, and I am a woman. I realized last year that I was not teaching to their needs, I was teaching to female needs. Some boys do fine with the way girls learn. Many feel that they are not meeting the expectations and they don't know why.
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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 11:27am
Oh, and yes I DO feel your pain on this, and I know you don't want this to be a 12 year struggle!
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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 8:18pm
I think that's an outrageous amount of homework for a child that age, gifted or not. Isn't he doing anything in school?

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 1:02am

Does he always have 12 spelling words for sentences?

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 12:00pm

When I spoke to the teacher Friday, she hadn't even noticed that he failed to hand in his homework.

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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 12:39pm
I haven't read the other posts about this... but my first though was WOW that's a lot of homework at this age. (Not that you can do anything about it)
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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 12:47pm
Ok, now my response after reading all of the other posts, including your last one.

How is homework counted in their grading structure? How this is handled nay affect what and how much he does. Focus on the subject he needs the most re-inforcement in (if there is one) and then take it from there. Quiz him verbally on the spelling words on Monday night, and then just have him work on the ones (if any) he has problems with during the week.

Have you asked any of the other parents in the class how they are dealing with the volume?

Has the teacher been doling out his work load for year or is she new? Is her homework level typical for the grade? (our schools have a wide variety of homework levels based on the teacher and her experiences... DS had more homework in 1st grade than he does in 2nd grade... it's all the teacher, and it's only used as a seperate line iten grade as "acceptable" or "needs work".
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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 10:31am

The homework has been gradually increasing.

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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 4:52pm

I know you're generally pleased with his schooling at this point, but man-oh-man, I don't know how to say it nicely ... there is absolutely no good reason why he should be needing to do any homework at all, and there are some pretty good reasons why he shouldn't be getting any. There are some good studies that show no relationship, or even a reverse correlation, between primary school homework and later school achievement. It stresses family relationships, takes away a child's down time, promotes burnout, reduces enjoyment of learning, and eliminates time available to discover and pursue other interests. How is he supposed to do all those kid-things like play, imagine, cavort, explore, invent, laze around, joke, visit, read, build, create, interact with family, help out at home, run and jump and climb?

My kids get not much more homework than that per night and they're in high school!

I don't have any productive suggestions, though, I'm afraid. I just feel so much for you and your ds, I couldn't avoid ranting on your behalf. I'm not familiar with the other issues in your educational choices, but if I was dealing with homework expectations like that and couldn't get my child exempted, that would be a very strong factor in considering a different school / program / approach.

Miranda

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