how to keep her motivated.

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how to keep her motivated.
Thu, 09-06-2012 - 10:52pm

My 3 year old is half way through kindergarten easily. I am homeschooling so I am letting her learn at her speed and not really worrying about it unless she falls behind. This year I am "starting" kindergarten. I got the books and tested her but she is closer to a grade 1 level so we are really doing work half way through to the beginning of grade 1. Now my problem is she is going to be going to a homeschooling group once every other week. They kind of think of her as too young but said it was ok as long as she doesn't get in the way. Her cousin is going to be going to. Her cousin is in kindergarten and is far behind her. The problem is my daughter is very interested in staying at the same level as her cousen. I don't want her to figure out she is so far ahead of her and then start doming herself down to her level. This happened with potty training. She was almost potty trained and then found out that her cousin wore pull ups so she started peeing in her pants all the time. There will be 3 other kindergartens and one grade 1 that is closer to a kindergarten level there. She will be the youngest by 2 years. I want her to go so she is not starting these things when she is doing grade 3 work. I just couldn't put her in a kindergarten situation at that time.

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Registered: 05-13-1998
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 12:04pm

I can't really say anything that hasn't already been expressed. I just agree. She's 3 and this homeschooling group doesn't sound neccessary or advisable. If she's easily influenced by the actions of an older cousin, I'd certainly not put her in the position of being "the baby" of the group. You want your kids to be secure in who they are and what they can do. A few more years at home developing her own self seperate from her cousin may be in order.

There is so much in the world to learn. Why focus on curriculum when you don't have to? At 3, my kids were running around museums, spending hours at the orangutan exhibit, doing messy kitchen experiments (both edible and non-edible.) I didn't call it homeschooling, it was just life. When academics caught their interest, they catapulted forward.

If you are worried about keeping your 3-year-old motivated, then it's a sign that she's not doing what she needs to be doing right now. Children are wired to learn. They focus on what they need to focus on whether it's social/emotional growth, physical prowess, fine motors or intellect. They don't progress evenly and even the brightest of kids will hit academic road-blocks for which you can only wait for maturity to catch-up. Trying to fit them in a curriculum just doesn't work.