Helping the kids to make new friends...

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Helping the kids to make new friends...
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 3:49pm

Liz Zack, iVillage's Editorial Director of Pregnancy & Parenting, with be on NBC's TODAY on Monday morning, talking about helping kids make friends at school.

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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 5:19pm

My question would be if friendship in elementary school isn't a bit overrated. Kids are expected to have friends, and if they do not it gives them the feeling they are failures. Of course they have to learn to socially adopt, but true friendship... isn't that something that can only happen with your 'matches', and as long as you do not have met your match, isn't functional friendships all within reach? (I realize that's more than one question ;-)

Suzanne
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Registered: 09-13-1999
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 10:56am
This is not a question but a reaction to Suzanne's post. I do not believe that friendships are possible only with matches. What a boring, insular world that would be! My husband and I, for example, come from two very different backgrounds. Thank goodness we were both people interested, even eager, to look beyond our circles. I know you were talking about intellectual matches but the principle, IMHO, is the same. In fact, my children have often made friends with children who offered something they lacked or something that clicked with one part of them: an outgoing effervescence, athletic ability, a stronger creative drive. My best friend in elementary school was a girl who happily sailed through school with C's and who was a sunny, social leader who complemented my more serious, quiet personality. We were close friends all the way through high school and beyond. I still look to her to bring perspective and humor to my life.