I am a 'dumb' parent of a gifted child!

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Registered: 01-21-2013
I am a 'dumb' parent of a gifted child!
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Thu, 01-24-2013 - 12:21am

I only have an Associate's Degree and that is in nursing and I'm an RN but currently not working.  My hubs only had one semester of college and then truck driving school and has been a driver instructor and OTR trucker for almost 12 years.  My older bio son is very smart, but not quite to the gifted level.  He is very book smart and gets all A's and is in the top 5 in his class of 130 kids, but here is my problem:  how does an intelligence-challenged woman parent a gifted child?  Josh asked me to explain electricity to him.  I had to google "how to explain electricity to a child" and didn't find anything that I thought he would understand.  He was waiting patiently, so finally, I just read it to him off of a science website.  He asked me to describe what an electron or ion was, I finally told him he would just have to ask a science teacher or his own teacher at school.  Yes, I passed the buck!

How do you all deal with being asked questions where the answers are difficult to explain?  If I had the money, I would put a Harvard professor on stand-by on-call for me!  I am so afraid too, since my IQ is only 100, that I am going to tell Josh a wrong answer about something or that I am going to hold him back in some way by not challenging him academically since he is even at 5, smarter than I am on a lot of things.

Anyone feel my pain here?  Advice, tips?

Blessings, Michelle

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Registered: 01-11-2013
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 1:14am

I just thought that he might like The Magic School Bus.  Maybe they have something on electricity. There are videos and books.

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Registered: 01-11-2013

Wow, it took me 4 times to log in to answer you.  I don't know what this board is, but I saw your comment.  You are not dumb! You are smart enough to ask for help when you think you need it.  I have 1 tested gifted child (IQ 140) who is now 21 and most likely another who is 6. The internet is a marvelous thing! You can find out all kinds of things. You can also check out the library for easy to explain books on different topics. Keep your son stimulated.  Go to museums, nature classes and read, read, read! If you can, look for camps in the summer on science or something he has an interest in. Try to make sure he goes to a good school that can offer him material to keep him learning. My youngest is 6. I decided to keep him out of all day kindergarten this year and enrolled him in a half day Montessori school so that he can work at his own pace on learning and also so I can continue to do things with him like the Children's Museum, nature programs, walks, and the nearby living history museum. I figured he could learn more by doing those things then sit in class all day and wait for the other kids to learn to read. He began reading when he was 3, so he is ahead of most kids plus he is 11 years younger than his next oldest sibling so he is kind of an old soul, but still loves to be with his peers too. My boys loved/love legos.  We have thousands! Gifted kids can be quite frustrating at times too. My oldest was a pretty good student, but not great. It was always frustrating because we knew he should be performing at a higher level and thought he might be bored. It turns out that he has ADD(diagnosed at 21). Apparently he did as well in school as he did because of his IQ, kind of inspite of himself. He is now doing very well in college and is looking at going to law school. He LOVED to read and that helped him have quite a large vocabulary and perform exceptionally well on standardized tests.

Keep doing what you are doing.  Look up some fun science experiments online. They usually explain the concept so that you can tell him why things react the way they do. If he likes to learn about nature, my youngest son went through a faze where he LOVED Wild Kratts. They come on PBS and also have a fun website. It is very informative and he can learn about animals and their habitats in a fun way. Also Zooboomafoo on You Tube is good. Oh, if you can find them, my oldest loved the "There Goes a ________" video series. They explain how things work. Like, "There Goes an Airplane" or "There Goes a Fire Truck", etc. There are a bunch of them. You might check the internet.  Since most of my kids are older, I don't know if they are still around.  I had saved them. Maybe Bill Nye too. Check out your library! Good luck!

Tammy

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