It's sometimes daunting...

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It's sometimes daunting...
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:03am keep up with our kids.<A href="http://s218.photobucket

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 10:29am

I agree; it can be daunting! As he gets older though, you'll be less and less involved and he will be able to find out a lot of things on his own and find other ways to explore his interests. He'll also get better at finding kids, adults and clubs where he can pursue his interests. I have really seen that at middle school with my ds11. I always thought he wasn't a joiner, and to-date in 6th grade he has joined SIX different groups, with a 7th as soon as chess club starts. Now I realize that he didn't have the option of joining an orchestra, STEM club

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 10:59am

It does get a lot easier. Kids become more independant about their learning, more able and willing to do their own research. They start to channel their thirst and abilities into areas of passion and seek others with more pointed knowledge to educate them. I can say that at ages 11 and 14, giftedness is pretty much a non-issue for us. The kids follow their own paths and generally, all they need from me is a ride lol. My current concerns are about whether the 11-year-old remembered to take his P.E. clothes back to school this morning and did my 14-year-old get enough sleep last night. Pretty normal stuff really. They aren't less gifted at these ages, they are just independant learners who don't need mommy to answer all their questions.

Plus, that early trajectory isn't a constant. When they are little, what is offered and expected of them educationally is shallow and the world holds so many unknowns. Being even a little advanced can seem overwhelming. Then, they get older and they just know more about daily things. They have enough experience to think more complex issues through. Subjects become richer and if they want to know more, they pick-up a book or research it online.

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 1:15pm

Seconding what Theresa said. With more independence comes less reliance on parents as a source of resources and information. My youngest is now 8 and there's no question of my "keeping up" with them at this point. They go their way. I take an interest, I'm there to help if they ask, but I'm not leading or facilitating or directing them any more. I'm rarely called for.


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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 4:20pm
I know how you feel. I'm going through a similar experience with my younger DD right now and I've been warned by her teacher that it's just the tip of the iceberg. We've had to develop ways for her to be more self-sufficient in finding solutions when she's stuck and checking her work, because DH and I are incapable of helping her even if we wanted to. It has taken a huge load off of me now that she is starting to find and use her own methods. As other posters have mentioned above, it's up to each individual child to determine how far she wants to go. Mostly it's cool to watch her, because she really just can't help doing what she does.
I know your son's very young, but maybe it's time to start looking for ways he can feed the monster on his own? I remember poring over old encyclopaedias and spending weeks trying to teach myself piano on my grandma's out-of-tune clinker as a kid, and although I'm neither a historian nor a concert pianist these experiences were good for me.
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Wed, 10-26-2011 - 11:26am

My son used to ask so many questions that I couldn't answer every time we were in the car.