QOTW: Would you move for a better school?

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QOTW: Would you move for a better school?
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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 5:29am

Or have you in the past?

Suzanne

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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 11:55am
We wouldn't move out of our home... can't afford that in our county and we love our home.

DD went to our local home schools for elementary and middle. We don't live in an area that people clamour to have their kids but truely, these schools were most flexible and willing to work with DD. For high school though, we drive her 20 miles away at the crack of dawn so she can attend a performing arts school. Our local highs could really offer nothing to her.

DS goes to a school in our district but not our homeschool. He's about 10 minutes away by car. It's an immersion school and the best fit for him. Honestly, we don't yet know what to do for middle school. The local school DD went to is a viable option but there is a high school we want DS to go to (about 25 miles away) but it can take years in the lottery to be accepted. People start throwing their kids numbers in the hat in 5th grade so they can go to the middle school and thus guarunteed for the high school.

So, no, we wouldn't move but yes, we drive all over for better educational fits.
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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 7:54pm

I don't know if this counts as an answer to your question, because we're not moving, but we are looking at independent schools for our son, who will enter HS next year. Our local public high school is academically excellent, but not a good fit socially for DS. He has spent 3 hellish years in middle school, depressed and not thriving in spite of therapy and every intervention you can think of, and since it's all the same kids goingto the HS, we're not going to send him there if we can help it.

All of the schools to which he has applied are at least 20 miles from our house, so yes, we'll do whatever it takes to get him to a place where he can thrive. The part that makes me really sad is that when I see how nurturing some of these private schools are, I regret that we didn't even consider offering them to our DD. She's a sophomore and really loves school, but I keep thinking how much she would have enjoyed some of the things the independent schools would have offered her.

DS's SSAT scores arrived today and they are excellent, so in spite of having almost no extracurriculars ( a lovely side effect of depression), we are hopeful that at least one of these $$$, far away schools will see him as the bright kid he is and let him in.

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 7:56pm

We did. We were renting a house when the older girls were toddlers, we purposefully bought in the best neighborhood we could afford for the schools. Then ended up commuting to a hybrid homeschool/regluar school charter school. And finally moved again to the midwest. I would definitely consider

Cathie, mom to Audrey & Emily 12 yrs, Libby 2 yrs
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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 8:04pm
I posted already but wanted to mention we are in the same situation with one of our twins girls. One child is absolutely thriving at the middle school and I expect will do the same next year in HS. The other daughter has not really found her niche socially and we are considering a private school 20 min away. Like you, all of the kids in the MS continue on to HS, we live in a small community. Both girls took the ACT in Dec and the dd who is not thriving did pretty well for an 8th grader (scored in the 84 percentile for all students who took the ACT), don't have the break down of how she did compared to other 8th graders yet. Just wanted to let you know we are in the same boat.
Cathie, mom to Audrey & Emily 12 yrs, Libby 2 yrs
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:45am

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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 12:44pm
The point is mostly moot for us, as we homeschool. However, we have vaguely considered the issue of whether to move for music education opportunities. In our case we live in a fairly rural remote area, with the nearest gifted magnet school and symphony orchestra being 8 hours away in another province. It would also involve jumping through some costly and time-consuming hoops to get dh and me licensed to work in our professions in that province. For instance I would need to do a full year of full-time++ retraining -- simply not possible while homeschooling four kids.

If "moving" meant buying a new house within an hour of where we live, certainly we'd consider doing that. But moving from our current location to anywhere that offered considerably more for our kids would be far more onerous and really isn't possible for us.

Miranda

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mom to three great kids and one great grown-up
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 7:55am

We've lived in an area with decent neighborhood elementary schools since before our kids were born.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 10:06am

We moved when my oldest was entering 3rd grade, mostly because with a third child on the way our house was way too small.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:47pm
We haven't in the past, my initial plan was to just accept the longer commute. but we are considering it now. The only problem is that DD1 and DD2s middle/high school is in a different town than the new Montessori school we would like to send DD3 to by the end of next year. If we'd move near the big girls' school the drive to the Montessori would be only 5 minutes longer though (30 min), so that's not too bad (but kind of silly: move away from it, at least now it's sort of on my way to work). And the town where the high school is in, is a lot less appealing than where we live now.... But we're growing out of our house soon, so the girls are pleading with us since we have to move anyway to move closer to school so they can meet with friends, and don't loose so much time biking to and from school (50 min one way)... I don't know...
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 5:46pm
We'd consider moving. Right now that would be tough because of the way our jobs are set up, but we knew when we settled here that there would be a good selection of schools.

Moving's a big thing, though, when you consider not only jobs but also friends, your home and your children's openness or resistance to moving. Maybe driving is better - and easier in the long run.

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