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Thu, 01-24-2013 - 4:53pm

Looks like we've got some new members and it's always nice for newbies to have a reference to who is on the board. How about a general posting about you and where your family is at in terms of educating and living with gifted children.

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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 2:51pm

I'm a married mom of 2. DH and I both wore the gifted label as kids and so have some varied personal experiences. I've been posting on this board for 13 years? We live in an area with a lot of different educational options so my kids have had an ecclectic education while remaining in the public school system.

DD 15 in one grade accelerated and spent her elementary and middle school years in traditional but highly flexible schools. She had a multitude of accomodation including subject acceleration, in-class differentiation and various styles of gifted programming. She had a disastorous 2 years in a performing arts magnet school for 9th and 10th grade. She is now a junior in a public high school/college hybrid program that lets her take mostly community college courses for duel credit. She is very happy now. She's big into theatre but loves history and political science as well. Lots of confusion at the moment as to what area to go forward in.... and lots of confusion about boys! We still deal with some feelings of iscolation and a general sense of being "out of time" with her peers but really, most teens we know seem to go through similar.

DS 12 is in 7th grade. He spent elementary in a tri-lingual public school (Spanish and Mandarin.) Same district as DD was in, same flexibility. The whole school curriculum was bumped up about a year. He's been subject accelerated in math since 2nd grade. He continues to get both languages in middle school but only a period a day now. He's in the district GATE program which was largely pull-outs in elementary and clustering in middle school. He has some mild learning disabilities. He had a host of sensitivities and issues when he was little but has grown-out of some and compensated for others (and we just got better and dealing with them as parents!) He loves math and science. He's had varied social experiences. He both fits better with his peers than DD ever did but also had to deal with some bullying in his younger years which never happened to her. In a lot of ways, he's very "normal." 

We feel really good about where the kids are right now and more importantly, they feel good. We've always tried to give them control of where and how they were educated. In some cases, we had to intervene and make the decision for them when they were unable to really see the issues.

Anyway, welcome new members and glad to see some "oldies" still on board.

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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 4:11pm

It is really nice to know about you all.  I was a member here when this was Parents Place!  When my oldest was a newborn, almost 16 years ago.  I am having a time using this site though.  On my Netbook I am having trouble staying logged in, it takes a minimum of 3 minutes to load each page and when I post, I have to type very slowly because my letters won't type fast.  Would I get automatically booted if I mentioned starting a Facebook group for everyone here entitled Ivillage gifted child?  I don't want to leave this group, I know I can learn a lot from you all, but I am being deterred from here due to site issues.  My big PC is a little better, but it is almost exclusively in use by my teenager and is in his man cave, which I rarely venture into.  Any suggestions?  It has taken me about 6 minutes to type this message, argh!

Blessings, Michelle

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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 6:59pm

I remember fifteen years ago when this was ParentsPlace and the boards used to roll over into archive each month and we'd start each new month with a roll call!

I'm Miranda, mom to four gifted kids, currently aged 19, 16, 14 and 10. We are primarily an unschooling family, meaning we homeschooled in a child-led way that involves no curriculum or direct teaching unless the kids request it. We live in a log house in the mountains of BC, Canada, near a village of 600, a long way from anywhere else. My kids have chosen to attend the local K-12 public school either full-time or part-time beginning somewhere in the high school years. The youngest is still exclusively unschooled. We're also a musical family (I'm a violinist and violist; the kids all play) and live a funky combination of tech-nerdiness and back-to-the-land-hippie-ishness.

Dd19 is in her second year living away from home, studying violin performance on full scholarship at college. She's globally HG/PG and highly introverted with late-blooming but now excellent social skills. She's been sure about her musical calling since about age 13, and despite some huge obstacles due to our geographic isolation, managed to make it work. She's also our world-traveller, having been to China, Laos, Myanmar, Thailand, all across Canada and the US, and is off to India soon to mentor amongst their new National Youth Orchestra program in Bangalore.

Ds16 is a dreamy introvert with a bit more of a right-brained learning style and a couple of minor 2E exceptionalities (dysgraphia and processing speed issues). Despite my private worries his intellectual strengths are enough that he is thriving in the traditional academic presentation of his 11th and 12th grade academic prep courses, managing just fine using his inspiration-driven free-flowing approach to essay-writing. He has incredible musical talent but has chosen not to pursue music the past couple of years other than playing viola for money in occasional orchestral gigs that come up, playing in a string trio, and singing bass in an awesome auditioned choir for teens and young adults. He's undecided about his future at this point. He has a strong affinity for computers, digital media and coding but is also very intrigued by medical science, history and philosophy.

Dd14 comes across as less gifted to me, but that's probably because she's always been more even in her development and more interested in playing age-appropriate social roles. She's doing a modified program at school full-time this year (her academic and music courses are all 10th grade, but she's officially in 9th because the school apparently doesn't like to grade-skip any more). She's top of the 10th grade class with almost no effort, despite being just newly 14, so clearly she's got lots of ability. But she's an easy fit. She finds things to be enthusiastic about most anywhere. She's a not-terribly-passionate violinist at this point and a soprano in the same choir as her brother. She should be in dance and gymnastics: she has incredible grace, fitness and flexibility, but alas our location has not allowed her to get even basic experience in either of these. So she does cool stuff on the lawn and the living room floor and the trampoline, and that's about it.

Dd10 is a little firecracker. Enthusiastic about everything, with mind-blowing natural ability, and is more outgoing than any of her siblings. She's the first of my kids who is "out there" enough to get instantly noticed by almost anyone. She really enjoys structure and social learning (though she tends to be more oriented to the adult mentors than the fellow students) and it seems like there's almost nothing she isn't naturally pretty good at. She's also easy-going and resilient, and oozes social grace. Honestly she's been a dream of a kid to raise so far. However we're starting to reach the point where local resources for kids and those I can naturally procure around our home and community are not going to be sufficient, so I can see some bumps in our future. She's ready for (and wants) a high school math course in the classroom. But she's barely 10 and on the 5th percentile for height and weight. The prospect boggles the mind.

(Edited yet again, this time in Safari. Let's see if the formatting takes.)

Miranda

Miranda
in rural BC, Canada
mom to three great kids and one great grown-up
unschooler, violist, runner, doc 

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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 7:03pm

Well isn't that sweet. After trying all day to get logged back in, got in and I edited in raw HTML to add the paragraph breaks which don't seem to take in WYSIWYG format, only to have them show up as if they're WYSIWYG.

Finally tried Safari (my third browser) and it seems to like the iVillage boards much better. And I could finally edit my signature!

Miranda
in rural BC, Canada
mom to three great kids and one great grown-up
unschooler, violist, runner, doc 

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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 10:26pm
I'm still here, but not really able to post. My last three posts (the latest one to turtletime, about gap years) have been eaten as soon as I press "send."
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Sat, 01-26-2013 - 5:29pm

Jane in GA, mom to 6, Ethan (17), 12th grade @ a magnet high school, Noah (16), 11th grade @ a magnet high school, Sawyer (13), 8th grade gifted ed, Wyatt (9), 4th grade gifted ed & accelerated 1 grade, Jada (7), 1st grade & Ava (5), Pre-K.

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Sat, 01-26-2013 - 5:34pm
Hey Hardrockermom, thank you for the time warp. I'd forgotten all about Parents Place! I was there too. I think I was momof3boys2000.
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Sun, 01-27-2013 - 12:04pm

I've gone weeks without being able to post.  At last I can usually log in now (for the first time today, I was able to start a comment without having to log in several times) but it's a moving target.  (Another group I hang out moved lock, stock, and barrel to The Place That Must Not Be Named.) 

I've almost "aged out" of this board...at least my kids have.  ds21 (the one that would "measure" as gifted) is in college, likely to spend several more years there due to a major change and graduate school plans.  He thinks like a lawyer (with attention to detail, command of English, and ability to hold his own in the face of fierce opposition without losing either his brains or his cool), but has switched his major to botany after taking almost every history course offered by the college.  He's the campus TV station manager...keeps all their antiquated equipment going and does all the programming.

dd19, gifted in art and music, is a synaesthete and dyslexic.  (For her, words have tastes and textures and music has colors.)  She has always been an interest led homeschooler and would like to go to art school.  The default option is the small state university down the road where she has been sitting in on music and art classes for several years.

dd15 is also an interest led homeschooler.  She is my "sleepeer"...is obviously bright but not obviously gifted...other than the fact that she seems to be wired similarly to dh, who is gifted.  She has just finished fostering four kittens (bottle fed) for the Humane Society.  We had two storms with dense snow (Jan 3rd-8"+, 9-12"+) and then weeks of cold weather (the jet stream has kink in it, bringing arctic air to the southwest and tropical air to the northeast)...but the little snow remaining is melting fast with daytime temps in the 60's, so dd15 is spending a lot of time now with a friend's horses.  (It's a small world...the elderly dad is visiting, was wearing a "Butte Symphony" tee shirt...I used to play in the Bozeman Symphony, so we had a great time talking about music and the weather, always interesting to people who live where you have to own a snow shovel.)  Here's a screenshot from our neighborhood webcam on Jan. 10:

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Sun, 01-27-2013 - 4:38pm

Hi all, I'm also a parentsplace alum.  I joined when I was pregnant with my now 15(!) year old and was struggling with gifted issues related to my then 7 year old.  Like Deborah, I'm nearly aged out of this board. Two of my three are adults and my "little" one is a sophomore in high school.

  DD23 is a professional writer. She was a writer almost from the time she could talk and it was pretty clear to us that this was the direction she would take in life.   She blends her interests in politics and culture into her writing and is having the time of her life.  Schooling was always something of an up and down experience for her with years where she was appreciated and offered challenge and years where she was miserable and isolated.

DD21 is graduating from college this year.   School and learning has not come as easily for her and she has some learning disabilities.  She has found ways in which to compensate for them, and is, of my three, the one most eager to ask for help when she needs it.  She has a winning personality and people tend to like her.  She has opportunities offered to her that my other two would not: she's been a TA in 3 classes and has served on special committees at her college.  Everyone knows her.   Her greatest challenge is in her tendency to self-deprecate.  It isn't easy being sandwiched between two very obviously gifted sisters.

DD15 is serious, tiny, and very quiet.  She is a perfectionist who has, happily, eased up on this tendency over time but who still worries far too much over everything.  Of my three, she cares most about achievement and is the most traditionally high achieving. She finds high school "boring" and "tedious."  Every so often she will light up at a learning opportunity but then goes back to where she's happiest, flying under the radar, plugging along at school, and educating herself at home where she can.  It's a challenge to get this kid to try things outside her comfort zone but she's made some strides in that area lately.

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Sun, 01-27-2013 - 4:38pm

Hi all, I'm also a parentsplace alum.  I joined when I was pregnant with my now 15(!) year old and was struggling with gifted issues related to my then 7 year old.  Like Deborah, I'm nearly aged out of this board. Two of my three are adults and my "little" one is a sophomore in high school.

  DD23 is a professional writer. She was a writer almost from the time she could talk and it was pretty clear to us that this was the direction she would take in life.   She blends her interests in politics and culture into her writing and is having the time of her life.  Schooling was always something of an up and down experience for her with years where she was appreciated and offered challenge and years where she was miserable and isolated.

DD21 is graduating from college this year.   School and learning has not come as easily for her and she has some learning disabilities.  She has found ways in which to compensate for them, and is, of my three, the one most eager to ask for help when she needs it.  She has a winning personality and people tend to like her.  She has opportunities offered to her that my other two would not: she's been a TA in 3 classes and has served on special committees at her college.  Everyone knows her.   Her greatest challenge is in her tendency to self-deprecate.  It isn't easy being sandwiched between two very obviously gifted sisters.

DD15 is serious, tiny, and very quiet.  She is a perfectionist who has, happily, eased up on this tendency over time but who still worries far too much over everything.  Of my three, she cares most about achievement and is the most traditionally high achieving. She finds high school "boring" and "tedious."  Every so often she will light up at a learning opportunity but then goes back to where she's happiest, flying under the radar, plugging along at school, and educating herself at home where she can.  It's a challenge to get this kid to try things outside her comfort zone but she's made some strides in that area lately.

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